I just saw a recipe for shrimp porridge by Maangchi and wanted to comment on some possible adaptations for #spoonies or fellow #ADHDers who don't deal well with keeping an eye on something for 30 minutes or more.
Note, this is probably not going to taste like hers, but hopefully as tasty.
#ADHD Info of the day:
Some may not know this. One symptom some ADHDers have is constant racing thoughts about a insanely massive variety of topics.
Sometimes these thoughts get spit out in a phenomenon I can only describe as "verbal diarrhea". I don't know if everyone with ADHD has this issue, but for me, it's an ongoing struggle of what I should and should not share.
In my personal experience, this type of over sharing sometimes leads to arguments with people you care about and even complete strangers. In extreme cases, you lose entire friendships over this, leading to a very lonely and regretful life.
If you know anyone who has these symptoms, it helps to take a minute and really think about what exactly they intend with their words. Also, reach out and let them know that it's okay and you're there for them. Be kind to each other. See things from other's perspectives. They may not mean what you think they mean.
Hey it’s #ADHD Awareness Month.
Today I recorded some vocal harmonies I previously forgot I needed to record. I also did some laundry.
I still have to wash and water Frances McDormand. 🌱
I had no idea #ADHDAwarenessMonth was a thing (or I just forgot about it--either way, thanks, @KydiaMusic@mastodon.social for the notice! lol) so due to my choice in username, I feel obligated to share a little about my experience. 😁
So here's the heavy shit: It's estimated that kids with #ADHD receive *over 20,000* more negative messages/corrections than neurotypical kids by the time they are 10 years old. That's not an insignificant number on paper, but living it is something else entirely.
I was diagnosed at 21 years old. When someone goes undiagnosed that long, it means that they've internalized more than a few stories they've been told about themselves. "I'm stupid," "I'm lazy," "I'm a failure," "I'm afraid of success," "I can't do anything right," and other fun fables. This is a quasi-universal experience for us because it's not just "hard" to avoid internalizing that. It's not the same as having a bully tell you you're a sack of crap every day at school; it's everyone in your life--friends, teachers, your parents. When the people that love you most in the world are fed up with you on a daily basis, it wreaks havoc on your self-esteem.
Now here's the truth about ADHD: Yes, it's a disadvantage in school, at work, and in our relationships. The fact is, however, that having an ADHD brain is not the problem. ADHD will only remain a disability while the world continues to be disabling to us.
The ADHD brain is wild. It's untamed. We're out-of-the-box thinkers. We're creative. We're perpetual students and teachers. We're passionate, excitable, bright, and lively people. ADHD brains are typically charismatic and have a veritable toolbox of skills and acquired knowledge. We're often great in a crisis and can think fast on our feet when put in a corner. Our brains actually take in more information than neurotypical brains, and while it can be intensely overwhelming at times, it also means we are surprisingly observant and skilled multi-taskers. In fact, studies have shown that, despite our "scattered" nature and difficulty directing our attention, we can be given a task in a room full of distractions and not only complete the task more efficiently than our neurotypical counterparts, but we can recall more details about the distractions and environment afterward.
All this is to say that there is a real need for #ADHDAwareness in our world, because #ADHDers have so much to offer but so many of us don't get anywhere near what we need to thrive. We need parents and teachers to be curious about us, not judgmental. We need leadership at school and at work that is knowledgeable about our condition. We need accommodations to be accessible to us, if not baked into more systems for everyone. We need timely diagnoses, especially for girls/women, people of color, and intersectional folks who are all systematically under-diagnosed, misdiagnosed, and ignored.
Anyway, thank you for reading. Sincerely. Go give an ADHDer a hug. Peace and love. 🤙
I almost forgot it’s ADHD Awareness Month. I was diagnosed in November 2021 after several of my friends posted ADHD memes and I recognized myself in them.
Finally being diagnosed and on meds has been great, overall. It’s not a super power, even tho medication definitely empowers me.
Being on meds doesn’t give me more spoons, but it does mean my spoons are no longer all slotted.
I always seem to focus on the bad. A lot of people say "you can't think like that".
Sure I can! I wish I couldn't. I wish it was as easy as turning it off, but it's not. I'm ADHD, I have thousands of thoughts a minute, they cannot really be controlled. If they could, I would choose to forget all the bad shit. Then I wouldn't be depressed.
"Just be happy" right?🙄🤦🏻♂️
Hey everyone! Just popping in to say I'm not active here atm as you may have noticed 😄
-Twitter @ Finnattentive (Still there!)
-Bluesky @finnattentive.bsky.social (It's VERY promising! Twitter-like.)
-Instagram @ Finnattentive (Don't use much.)
Please find me on those if you fancy hearing me talk about my life as an AuDHD person 🤗
Ok, last one for the day. I hope y'all have a good weekend. Say hi to the raccoons if you happen to see them. But you probably won't see them at this place.
#QualityInn #Oakwood #PedFriendly #Memes #Humor #Funny #FridayFunny #FridayFeeling #ADHDMemes #AuDHD #ADHDers #NeuroDivergent #NeuroDiverse #NDMemes
#SelfCare #SelfCareMemes #YouAreWorthy #IAmWorthy
Here's where my love of memes, raccoons, and music pop culture references collide.
By one of my favorite bands, Trashing Gourds!
#SmashingPupmkins #Memes #Humor #Funny #FridayFunny #FridayFeeling #ADHDMemes #AuDHD #ADHDers #NeuroDivergent #NeuroDiverse #NDMemes
#SelfCare #SelfCareMemes #YouAreWorthy #IAmWorthy
Posting memes is a form of self-care for me. Also, I am going to have pizza later today. What are your plans for this evening/weekend?
I know I have been masking most of my life, but I don’t know how exactly, and don’t know what I would be like to *not* mask.
And for years, I attributed many of my #ADHD habits to being half-deaf. :welp:
Especially the perfectionism and not asking people to repeat themselves!
So much of ADHD can be boiled down to "I'll just"...
I'll just be a minute!
I'll just finish this thing I do which I love and is neverending, then move on to that urgent task.
I'll just leave this here for now.
I'll just call them later.
I'll just put on my all-is-fine mask.
I wanted to post this for my #ADHDers and the #NeurodiverseSquad at large. These are low- to no-effort nutrition tips that I have accumulated over the years for "no spoons" days:
* There are a ton of veggies you can eat with no preparation at all. Baby carrots, snap peas, cucumber, grape/snacking tomatoes, mini bell peppers (the red ones are sweet and you can bite into them like an apple), romaine/leafy green lettuce, spinach, mushrooms, canned bamboo shoots/menma, jalapeños, bean sprouts, and a bunch more.
* Sardines. They are a great protein source and so damn nutrient-dense. All you have to do is pull the top off the can.
* Sprouts can be added to sooo many things. They're barely noticeable and they pack in a lot of extra nutrients. I like alfalfa sprouts, but there are also clover sprouts, broccoli sprouts, and others--and they're all super good for you. I put them on sandwiches, mix them into salads, wtv.
* Plain avocado oil is a fine salad dressing that's also a great source for healthy fat with Omega-3s. It's also good on rice, potatoes, or anything you'd put butter on.
* Oatmeal is a great healthy carb. Just get some instant oats and add water. Microwave or use an electric kettle. You can add some fruit and honey to make it sweet, you can add chocolate protein powder and peanut butter to make it decadent, you can throw sautéed mushrooms and chives in it and put a fried egg on top to make it savory.
* Peanut butter is my JAM, but almond butter is arguably better for you. Just find a nut butter with as few ingredients as possible on the label, but ideally one that is no stir. Eat it with a spoon, put it on bread, put it on apple slices, put it on put it on whatever. It can be high sodium, but if you're having trouble getting enough calories or enough protein: peanut butter.
* Are you having lots of no spoons days? Depression slump? Chronic illness? Let me introduce you to Tray™. Just get a normal tray, ideally with hand-holdy bits. Reserve a shelf in your fridge for it, and load a variety of foods onto it. Maybe some lunch meat, cheese, a bit of dark chocolate, whatever you want. Just put a bunch of zero-effort foods, then when you are hungry, remove Tray™, eat stuff off of it, return Tray™ to fridge. Just make sure to restock it every week.
* If you have the means, look into Instant Pots. Especially the ones with the air fryer. You can bake potatoes, make hardboiled eggs, rice, broth, and all kinds of basics really easily. There are also a bajillion hands-off, one-pot recipes that you can make with it. Dump some stuff in, put on the lid, press a couple buttons, wait a few minutes--dinner's ready. It takes so much time, thought, and energy out of cooking.
* Easy portions: your plate = 50% veggie, 25% lean protein, 25% complex carb. Add a Tbsp or two worth of healthy fat onto that.
I hope this helps! Please feel free to comment any tips you've picked up.
#SpoonTheory #ADHD #AuDHD #Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Disability
If you're confused or new here, and want to follow along, just click on this post and scroll up to the top. I'm tryna be better about connecting it as a thread.
But I have #ADHD and might forget. Also, my #storytelling skills are not very linear and I tend to go off on tangents to explain some concepts like what a #MusicProducer even does, since that's relevant to the story.
I don't need the support--I despise when bra companies market REAL BRAS (with hook/clasp in back) as bralettes.
And going up in size results in FAR TOO MUCH fabric and bigger straps, which also cause their own issues. I just need the coverage for decency purposes, basically. I don't want to feel compressed all day like I'm wearing a sports bra, 'bout to run a marathon. 😓
Any #NeuroDivergent #ADHD women or #Autistic women who have skin/pressure sensitivities? I'm having SUCH a hard time finding a comfortable bralette, b/c they all squeeze my rib cage too much. And this despite trying mutliple sizes and despite reviewers on websites promising things like "OMG it's so comfortable I can SLEEP in it."
Nope! I've tried SO MANY and they all squeeze me in a way I find intolerable. :AAAAAA:
ADHD-reading. Or more like an inconvenience:
I love to read! I looove to emerge myself into sci-fi and fantasy worlds.
I rarely read with my eyes. Only if that is my only option for a specific book —and the occational graphic novel. When reading with my eyes I strictly do physical books due to sensory issues from too much screen reading.
I prefer to listen to audio books while doing chores and repetitive tasks in my home.
This #quote from #JosephCampbell came up on my #birthday years ago but this year it hits differently. It put into words what I felt but couldn’t articulate. After recently reading how #ADHD brains mature at a much different rate than neurotypical brains, it’s a little 🤯🤯🤯.
Maybe #mythology hearkened to me on a much deeper level than I ever expected. My understanding of how different I am from ‘the norm’ has only happened in the past 2 years. Yet I always celebrated being different, and decided long ago that striving to be like everyone else was a Bad Thing.
It still took years for me to listen to myself (it was a gradual process), but that’s fine. Little shifts in perspective add up over time until one day you find that you’ve done a 180 and are swimming against the flow.
Take your time. Be true to yourself. You’ve got this.
This Adderall shortage is the WORST. I've been on a generic, and even that is backordered now. The pharmacy said I should call around to other pharmacies to see if they have it in stock, and then notify my dr. that I need a new scrip at that pharmacy. Bruh, do you know how much executive function that requires? Which I don't have without my meds? Would you ask a person who needs crutches to go through an obstacle course before you'd provide them?
Doing vocal comping on this track has taken way longer than I expected. But I'm finally getting to eat some corned beef and cabbage for a belated St. Patrick's Day dinner. And Instant Pot to the rescue, so it only took 2.5 hours to cook instead of 4.5!
The anxiety and stress of writing a long email, and then the frustration of not being able to move on and work on music. Instead I just ruminate on the email and worry that I didn't communicate clearly enough.
:AAAAAA: :AAAAAA: :AAAAAA: :AAAAAA: :AAAAAA: :AAAAAA:
I joined here 90 days ago, when it was very uncertain if Twitter was gonna quickly burn down or not. It didn't, and I've kept being active there.
I'll continue to do so unless something major happens. So if you wanna see me talk about ADHD and autism, you can do so there, for now 😊 I'm Finnattentive there too. (And on Insta, but not very active there.)
I've never been in another community quite like it. You are all cool as hell, collectively and as individuals. Thank you for making me feel at home.
Best TV characters that def have #ADHD and are either inspirational figures or become inspirational through character development in their respective series':
* Special Agent Dale Cooper, "Twin Peaks"
* Phil Dunphy, "Modern Family"
* Luz, "The Owl House" (*#AuDHD)
* Jamal Turner, "On My Block"
* Devi Vishwakumar, "Never Have I Ever"
* Shawn Spencer, "Psych"
Who am I missing?
I'm not a TV chef who can pluck fresh lemons from a tree in my garden. Lemons in the UK are dreadful esp since Brexit. Typically hard, juiceless, turn to rocks in the fridge or go bad really fast if left out. Also ADHD comes with it's own ingredients realities which #ADHDers will understand.
I buy a bottle of already squeezed spanish lemon juice (where lemons are great). It keeps better longer and saves you time.
✅ Lemon juice
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For my lovely #ADHD community: Are there any #ADHDers out there that are big #readers? I've really liked #reading at certain points in my life and have really struggled with it at other points. I'm currently stuck firmly in a "struggle" period that I can't seem to shake.
I'm looking for ideas around making reading (especially non-recreational) more approachable, easier to do regularly, and ideally more enjoyable. What works for you?
Pomodoro technique - quite a lot of us #ADHDers use variations of this. Particularly when our brain chemistry says no, those tax return figure collecting tasks are far too boring to cope with.
I have this cool little 3, 5, 10, 15, 25, 30 hexagon timer that I just turn a side up to start countdown, turn a diff way to pause or stop.
Makes it easier to do 25mins focus then 5mins of brain zipping around 200 topics to refresh etc
@meshe business far more effective.
That is a piece of learning I would try to offer to #ADHDers in the workplace. If at all possible, try to get a structure of your responsibilities to play to your strengths & talents. Don't let some fictional #NeuroTypical ideal ruin your efficiency.
Find collaboration, tools, structure, pa whatever that lets you offload maladapted tasks, particularly (...)
Absolutely. I'm a firm believer that what we call #ADHD is a beneficial to the group adaptation that adds skills to the tribe (& earlier troop). It's just very recent post-industrial life that tries so hard to regulate ppl in to pretty standardised production cogs.
Also our younger #ADHDers have my gratitude for pushing MH discussion in to a newly open position very different from the past.
I'm not by any means suggesting #ADHDers are some monolithic #ADHD savant block. We're as varied, our creativity, interests, talents & personalities slant in as many different directions as any other group of people.
However most of us are wasted for much of our lives. So many of us are expending 90% of our processing power just on staying inside the guardrails of the grey scheduled lanes of NT world.