I'm not mad that my friend outed me as trans behind my back. I'm mad that he misgendered me while doing it.
I'm very publicly agender, and to those who understand the term, I am a eunuch. It's on my work profile and social media, after all. And I tell my friends about my plans for vaginoplasy because I may need their help during my recovery.
So we had a long talk about how having a vagina does not make me a woman any more than having a penis makes me a man. I use he/him pronouns because I feel like the "gender-neutral male" pronoun pretty well sums up how I present.
More on gender identity ...
I jokingly call myself "zengender" as I hold my identity with a light touch. But the closet term we have is "suprawoman" as I'm more than the obvious - a little of my experience pushes into areas we might term genderqueer
So how do I know? ... life experience and realization via close and dear enby friends. Lots of chatting over the years. I adore how many non-binary folk unpack their gender(s) bottom-up and to the N-th degree. As I have shared exactly that deconstructive approach, I'm in awe of you :heart_nb:
Well IRL the term "woman" works. I can own that fully too - simply because I am, it's hard to deny. This is why after a point of self-awareness all these words can become more tags for others than oneself ... one lets go and swims in gender 🏊♀️🏝️🐟
Anyway, a selfie of a 50-ish woman scrubbing up okay on a Monday morning in her favorite coffee place ☕ Rubs estrogel performatively ...
Gender experientially these days feels more and more like a huge ocean I swim in:
🔹 one can paddle around in the safe areas of the gender binary 🤽♀️
🔹 one can swim 🏊♀️ out to near islands 🏝️ of non-binariness
🔹 one can become an ocean swimmer 🌊 seeking knowledge outside the binary
🔹 finally one becomes a deep sea diver seeking gender in its purest forms 🤿
Down in the Mariana trenches of gender you will meet dangerous creatures 🦈 🐡 yes (!) but the perspective is amazing 💡
... words like binary and non-binary become equally meaningless
... the Answer to "Gender, the Universe and Everything" is 42 of course but
... we're still working on the Question
Fancy a swim?
‘You #demean and #humiliate’. Florida's #DontSayGayLaw was discussed alongside the state's numerous book bans, with DeSantis holding up a copy of Maia Kobabe's "#GenderQueer: A #Memoir" by at one point. Newsom blasted DeSantis for using “#education as a #sword for your #cultural #purge”.
Gender Garage Nonbinary Meetup Graz | Dezember
A bunch of scientists looking mostly for C. tartarus (a cave crayfish) in Oklahoma the other week. People from across the US came to support this project.
Yes, it's a lot of guys. Women, queer, and BIPOC folk are rarely seen in these spaces. There are still some shoddy attitudes around too. This crew is cool though, it took me a *long* time to find places in caving in general, much less field work, that I can belong without feeling token, or appreciated instead of simply tolerated.
I have a gender creative friend who is incarcerated for the next 5 years or so. He would love to talk to someone out there who maybe knows something about expressing oneself as gender fluid or gender creative. He can be sent emails (there's a small fee) through this site:
Or you can write to him:
John Michelin - W116996
965 Elm St.
P.O. Box 9106
Concord, MA 01742
I’m a woman who is a man.
I’m not “a woman” – “woman” alone does not describe me at all. But I am not “a man” either – “man” without the other part also doesn’t describe me right.
I am not a woman. I am not a man.
I am a woman who is a man.
Most men are not women, but I am.
A lovely non-binary friend of mine has asked me to share the following here to help them with their master's dissertation :NonBinaryHeart:
If you're interested, per the below, their email is email@example.com and the form is located at:
#Asexual #folks are not only a #queer #minority in their own right, but they also significantly overlap with other queer minorities, with many aces identifying as #bi, #gay, #lesbian, #pansexual, as well as #transgender, #genderqueer, and #nonbinary
Marilyn Roxie, a genderqueer person, created the genderqueer flag in 2011.
As debates about trans rights unfold, people sometimes struggle to understand transgender identity and the various terms trans people use to describe themselves.
I profiled several trans identities in a recent article on my blog, Meticulous Musings.
I think she always knew I would do anything she wanted. When she handed me the panties and told me to put them on I didn’t even hesitate. It was when she started insisting I listened to the hypnosis files each night before I went to sleep, that I knew things were moving further downstream.
Nueva #presentacion porque ya ha pasado un tiempo y quiero actualizar cosas.
Tengo una pagina web personal en ingles en norea3a.neocities.org y alli hay un archivo de arte y una wiki de OCs por si os interesa.
Tengo una estetica medio #punk medio #gotica. De vez en cuanto hago cosas para divulgar teoria queer, #anarquista y de izquierdas en general. Si alguien tiene una pregunta sobre esas cosas suelo responderles lo mejor posible.
Intento poner todas las medidas de accesibilidad que pueda, pero si se me pasa alguna intento corregirlas lo antes posible.
Si quereis conocerme mas podeis dejar preguntas e intentare responderlas en cuanto las vea 💜
If you want to be a girl, you can just be a girl.
If you want to be a boy, you can just be a boy.
& your options aren't limited to the binary.
Maybe you're a combination of genders.
Maybe you have no gender.
Maybe your gender is fluid.
Maybe it's intrinsically linked to your neurodivergence.
Or maybe it's something else entirely.
You can just be you :TransHeart:
Camarades, même si vous êtes un mec cis comme moi - et a forciori sinon - la lecture du B.A.BA du sexe entre meufs et personnes queer, livre collectif rédigé par Allison Moon, est stimulante et riche. Pas hyper synthétique et un peu trop orienté "baise" et "sextoys" pour des hippies comme nous mais quand même vachement clair, inclusif et juste. Moult infos et joie. Merci Goater !
The selfie du jour, while waiting for curbside delivery of a proper webcam after reluctantly limping along on my phone camera all these years into the online meeting era. Yes, I'm that kind of weird contradictory luddite tightwad who goes "I have a camera already, why do I need another gizmo?" 🤣 Sporting my version of the US Pacific Northwest fall layered look.
AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! WHAT'S GOING ON!?!?!? AHHHHHHHH OH NOOOOOOO!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!
#Femboy #Blurry #Meme #SFW #Skirt #Bed #Plushy #Shaved #Smooth #Cute #Athletic #LongHair #LGBTQ #Trans #Gay #eGirl #eBoy #Breedable #Pride #Sissy #Muscle #Silly #Comfy #Pale #PaleSkin #Tummy #Origami #Submissive #Teeth #Twink #MTF #Femininity #Bisexual #Autistic #Kawaii #NeuroDivergent #Paper #CrossDresser #Switch #Blushing #Fashion #RoseBoy #Top #Fishnets #GenderQueer #Bottom #Masked #Feminine
Wearing one of my favorite hats - swag from a local Halloween season event (a soapbox derby style race in wacky coffins, costumes encouraged!). The logo is an homage to Rat Fink monster hotrod art and I love it to pieces 💗
There's no trans test you need to take.
You don't need a medical diagnosis of gender dysphoria or gender incongruence.
But if you're waiting for a trans person to give you permission to start transitioning, you got it.
This is me giving you explicit permission to be whichever gender you want to be.
Life's too short. Choose to be the real you.
If you want to be a gender other than the one you were assigned at birth, you can just DO that :TransHeart:
Wanna be a girl? Be a girl :PinkHeart:
Wanna be a boy? Be a boy :LightBlueHeart:
Wanna be something outside of binary genders? Be it :NonBinaryHeart: :AgenderHeart: :GenderfluidHeart: :GenderqueerHeart: :BiGenderHeart:
They said only 11 people made over 60% of the 1000 book challenges. We need to block the relevance of out of jurisdiction challenges more and stop this kind of thing.
@mythologymonday an Inuk grandmother and her granddaughter have been left all by themselves with no hunters to provide for them. The granddaughter frets. How will she find a husband? How will they eat? Grandmother is an angakoq, so she squats down on the floor and turns her vagina into a dogsled and her lice into the dog team. She grows a penis. Soon, she fills his/her granddaughter with meat and with child. But one day while he/she is out hunting, a young man comes to their home and granddaughter decides she would rather be with him. When grandmother returns to find granddaughter gone, she turns the dogsled back into a vagina and the dogs back into lice. She’d rather be a woman, anyway. #MythologyMonday #Inuit #grandmother #angakoq #angakkuq #transformation #Genderbent #genderqueer
Don’t forget the Mapping Trans Joy is a project to uplift our #joy during these trying times. Stop by to see what others have recorded, and share some of your own joy
Well, I guess it's time for our #Introduction post! I'm Amethyst, co-host and face of the Gemstone System, also known simply as Gemmy. I use shey/shem pronouns and I'm a #Genderqueer #Queer dyke. :genderqueer_flag: :lesbian_flag: I like playing and making #VisualNovel, doing intermediate-level #Origami, and hanging out with my friends in VCs and IRL.
My fellow co-host is Artemis, who uses she/her pronouns and is a #Demigirl. :demigirl_flag: She's what's known in #Plurality as a little, which basically means that despite our body being an adult, she's basically a kid. I tend to keep her close to the vest to keep her safe but she's an essential part of my #GameDevelopment and #Programming journey, having offered many of her own insights and hours of labor to the cause.
There's eight identities that we know of but there may be more. Despite this, only really I and Artemis front all that often and most really only ever meet me. Even still, I like to be upfront. So that's us!
It's been a while since I've joined like a whole different social media platform, so I suppose I can make an #introduction post.
Hi, I'm Linni (They/Them) #genderqueer
I'm a self-taught #artist mostly into #DigitalArt but I work with #acrylic once in a blue moon.
I draw a lot of my #OCs, I adore my little made up guys.
I also like #ttrpg #videogames #techart #3dmodeling #anime #whump #fantasy
bird site refugee, but I'm already active on #tumblr so I thought I'd try it out here :)
My introduction video!
#Femboy #Introduction #Paper #Sissy #Gay #RoseBoy #Bisexual #Cute #LGBTQ #Mask #Origami #Masked #Educational #LinkTree #Breedable #Pride #eGirl #CrossDresser #Kawaii #NeuroDivergent #Silly #Skirt #Strong #Muscle #Blushing #LongHair #NonBinary #Trap #Athletic #eBoy #Nerd #Autistic #Trans #City #Comfy #Design #Diet #Exercise #Brighten #Submissive #GenderQueer #CityDesign #Twink #Anime
You know all those negative reviews you read? I asked #ChatGPT: "write 10, angry conservative one-sentence negative reviews of the graphic novel Gender Queer, which is a progressive memoir about gender identity issues." Note, this is v.3.5, which presumably doesn't even include Gender Queer. Still, it said:
Which do you think is the best gender-neutral term for landlord / landlady?
Boosts appreciated to get a larger sample size :BoostsOKPrideSymbol:
Hyphens added to hopefully make the terms pronounceable on screen readers.
PSA for all my trans, non-binary, agender, bigender, genderfluid, genderqueer, intersex, & gender non-conforming siblings
You're all amazing :PleadingFaceWithRedHearts:
I just wanted to remind you of this :TransHeart: :NonBinaryHeart: :AgenderHeart: :BiGenderHeart: :GenderfluidHeart: :GenderqueerHeart: :IntersexHeart:
Looking Fabulous is a promotion.
“Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short and wear shirts and boots because it’s okay to be a boy; for girls it’s like promotion. But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading, according to you, because secretly you believe that being a girl is degrading.” —Ian McEwan, The Cement Garden
Please consider adding a quick narrative of joy over at https://www.mappingtransjoy.org/
We need all the joy we can get, and sharing joy with each other is fucking powerful
#Introduction time at the newly-rebranded #FirefishLGBT server! 🎉
(you can read this on my profile too, I keep tweaking it here and there when I remember to add or change a thing)
Thinker of profound thoughts & also shitposts.
#Trans #Non-Binary #GenderQueer. #Neurodivergent #Writer. #Disabled with #ChronicIllness #MCAS #EDS #POTS.
I write about #QueerIdentity, #Death, #Hope, #Praxis, & #SongLyrics at the Infinite at https://nixkelley.com. My inspiration to write usually comes when songs and poetry remind me what is true.
I currently live on Anishinaabeg land in what is called Michigan, in the lower half of the mitten, between the Great Lakes.
I am a trained #DeathDoula. I engage in #DeathWork and #GriefWork for my community, using a reciprocity model rather than a capitalist structure. I write Paths That Lead Home, essays for the dying and their loved ones. You can sign up for it at https://everonandon.com, my deathwork website.
I'm currently training in a pre-Gardnerian Celtic oathbound lineaged oral mystery tradition of #BritishTraditionalWitchcraft. I serve the community wherever I live (and wherever I can travel digitally), as a layperson for now and as clergy once I reach an appropriate level of training.
I am a #pagan #polytheist and #animist. I live in an intentional community with my #ChosenFamily, and we are learning how to do this as we go, taking inspiration from indigenous Celtic tribe-based communal living.
I'm a #gamer. My current rotation of PC games is #IXION, #MaskOfTheRose, #OxygenNotIncluded, & #LOTRO. I have a deep love for #DeathStranding #Fallout4 #ESO #Skyrim & #Frostpunk. On the Switch, I'm playing #CozyGrove #OregonTrail & #NotTonight.
I'm a #knitter & my Ravelry profile is https://ravelry.com/people/nixkelley
I am a #polyam person and I currently have two partners. I watch queer media whenever possible. I love ridiculous #paranormal media. My favorite kind of humor is dark.
#AltText is the rule: my avatar is a selfie I took, framing my face and one of my tattooed arms. I have pale skin and in this photo my hair is dark.
#NeptuneFrost is #gender, #geopolitics, #history of #Africa, #Rwanda and the #Black #diasphora, #policing, #technology, #surveillance, #Western #exploitation, #economics, #oppression, #propaganda, #love, #community, #music, #individuality, #resistance, #workers, #rights, #solidarity, #hate, #internet, #data, #privacy, #homophobia, #surreal, real, #hope.
A 5 star recommendation.
#NeptuneFrost is amazing! A #dream, beautiful, blunt, and #surreal, touching on universal topics of #gender, #politics, #exploitation, #oppression, #economics, #technology, #love, #resistance, and more.
LAST ONE FOR NOW!!!
It takes solidarity and support for all queer identities to make our community.
Nobody should be left behind!
I'd like to maybe to another piece with some other identities eventually!
New instance, new #introduction! Formerly @firstname.lastname@example.org but hopping over to calckey for reasons.
Hi y'all, I'm Amichai (or Jack) and I am a #queer #transmasc but increasingly #genderqueer person who lives in #Boston MA USA.I use he or they pronouns.
I am in the process of converting to #Judaism.I was raised in a fundigelical xtian family but was a closet atheist by the age of six, and there's still religious trauma I'm working through there.
I live with my husband and our cat (Libby) and dog (Momo). I like posting unexciting photos of them (often "lap check with Libby" and "here's Momo ignoring me again while we're on a walk").
For the USA, I am extremely politically left... which means things like I believe things like #EveryoneDeservesAHome,
#HealthcareForAll, and #LandBack. But I try to tag any political posts with some content warning like #USPol or #MAPol.
I like #reading, studying #Hebrew, learning more about anything #Jewish, and admiring other people's art. I'd love to connect with more Jewish folks, especially Jewish queers of all types.
DMs are welcome! If you want to follow me but would prefer I tag or CW some sort of content, let me know and I'll be delighted to do that. I will always put alt text description of images I post. If I boost something that does not have alt text already (or it's not an accurate transcription), I'll add suggested alt text in a reply.
ich keine Angst mehr habe Weiblichkeit auszuleben. Ich bin in meinem nicht-binären Geschlecht, meiner Neuro-Queerness so gefestigt, dass mir klischeehafte Mädchen-Dinge nicht mehr "weh tun", ich nicht mehr dagegen ankämpfen muss in eine Geschlechterrolle gedrückt zu werden. 4/4
Feels like a good week to tell every non-binary person in the #Fediverse how amazing you are, and remind everyone here that non-binary identities are stunning, beautiful, individual, deep and go so far beyond the 'enby' or 'NB' stereotypes you may not believe unless you're talking with them to understand ... :heart_nb:
Well you're adored, amazing, you've taught me over the years and are still teaching me new things about gender ... including off-grid outside the binary. Plus you take personal authenticity to the very very max. Do I sound a fan? Well yes, cannot deny how much I think you all rock ... :flag_nonbinary: :butterfly_nonbinary:
You DON'T need to have ANY of the below to be trans:
* Noticeable gender dysphoria.
* Strong dislike of your genitalia, body, voice etc.
* A desire for HRT or surgery.
* A medical diagnosis.
It's enough to feel that your gender doesn't match the one you were arbitrarily assigned at birth.
You don't need anything else to be valid :TransHeart:
It's time to make my #introduction
I'm Pallas. I'm #Aplatonic #aromantic (#demiromantic) and #genderqueer. I consider myself #Omnigender, because I have at least one gender of any quality, but I don't necessarily experience every gender.
I'm technically #asexual and #asensual, but as I experience other types of #PhysicalAttraction strongly, I just say I'm a #grayce #MspecGay
I love retro/vintage things, including but not limited to:#CLassicTV, #OldHollywood #OldSchoolVisualKei, #ClassicalMusic (Mostly from the Galant/classical and romantic periods), #ClassicLiterature, #VintageFashion and more; and I'm particularly interested in the intersection between queerness and those things, like queer artists of the pass and queer rep on old media.
As you can see for my profile picture, my favourite composer is Beethoven
I'm #neurodivergent (#Autistic and #epileptic) and, beside vintage/retro stuff, my special Interest are #Space related things and #linguistics.
I'm #disabled and require the use of #AltText as my vision often doesn't work properly due to nerve-related issues.
I'm not new to either the #fediverse, I've been in and out of it since 2018 (Not because I didn't like it, I just pass from times where I don't use #SocialMedia), nor fully to #Calckey or #Misskey, I've tried them in the past without good results; the places I was in either died or I didn't felt at home in. So here I'm trying to give this side of the fediverse another try!
If you're looking for a trans-affirming barbershop or hair salon, I recently learnt about Strands For Trans :TransHeart:
They currently list businesses in US, Canada, Mexico, UK, netherlands, Czechia, Finland & Australia.
#trans #transgender #enby #NonBinary #agender #genderfluid #genderqueer #GenderNonConforming #intersex #queer #LGBTQ+ #LGBTQIA+ #LGBTQIA2S+ #hair #hairdresser #HairSalon #HairStyle #barbershop #salon #TransRightsAreHumanRights
I would love to get nipple piercings someday. But I first wanted to ask anyone who has had top surgery and got nipple piercings, what do I need to know? Or if you are a #piercer and have information/advice, help please! and thank you!
Looks like https://www.futureproof.so/ is doing another round of talks!
Do sign up for their newsletter to get more info once the conference is announced!
Feels like a great sunny 🔆 morning here to say to non-binary people, you simply rock :heart_nb: Let's not assume for one moment that all trans woman don't or can't understand. Some of us really do ...
Recently I've been seeing some *amazing* selfies from non-binary folk. Forget any narrow "enby" stereotypes, it's magnificent, glorious, mind-blowing. Some Beethoven's 9th level gendering going on, to a level I just want to stand up and applaud 👏 and then stab that ⭐ button twenty times
As a self-identifying GenderSorceress L6 you are *still* teaching me L7/L8 things on gender ... some of you go so very deep and so honestly in unpacking your gender identity, and omg I love you so much for that! :flag_nonbinary:
Likely the last update for this week. It has been a wild one, with 8,000 subreddits going down, to about 4,000 now.
Retoot if you found this helpful!
Cool History: The Public Universal Friend
In 1776, after a rough illness, a 24-year-old in Rhode Island claimed to have died. They said they were then resurrected genderless. They abandoned their birth name and pronouns, becoming, the Public Universal Friend.
Becoming a Quaker preacher, The Public Universal Friend gathered a large following and was quite influential. They opposed slavery, empowered unmarried women, welcomed black people, and encouraged peace with the Iroquois. They even founded a settlement called The Gore.
There were numerous attempts to arrest the Friend for blasphemy, but they all failed. In one incident, the women of the house drove off the invading men, tearing their clothes, and in another, the Friend escaped skillfully on horseback.
Pretty rad, all in all.
Trans people are breaking down the gender and sex binary on a daily basis. Our very existence challenges the system of male and female, man and woman. We cross the lines and say “no, females are not inherently like this, no, males are not inherently like that”. We challenge the roles of gender and gender performance.
Trans people take gender and sex from the hands of the patriarchy and mold them into acts of joyful, rebellious expression. We break down the walls between what society says we should do, and what we know in our hearts we can be.
Some trans people obliterate sex and gender so completely they exist outside the binary itself. Some trans people are nonbinary, agender, bigender, or genderqueer (and more).
Even “binary” trans people destroy the patriarchy’s concept of what a person can be, since the patriarchy insists thought and behavior are linked to birth sex. We prove they are not. We prove the differences between the sexes are not bold binaries but a spectrum of features – and those features are largely pick-and-choose, not predestined based on hormones.
For those who medically transition, we prove again that the differences between the sexes are not as rigid as the patriarchy would have you believe; there is not an uncrossable gulf between male and female, and many of the physical traits we are told “belong” to one sex or the other are easily switched by what hormones we have in our bodies.
There is an unbroken spectrum between male and female and beyond. There is an unbroken spectrum between man and woman and beyond. There is an unbroken spectrum between all sexualities. There is an unbroken spectrum between cis and trans!
Humanity does not exist in boxes! Identities overlap, mesh, and blend.
Nothing is defined. Nothing is concrete. There are no boxes, no lines, no hard rules.
If you want to destroy the gender and sex binary, you have to support trans people. We’re on the cutting edge.