What? You think I'm pretty?
That's very nice of you to say! <3
#Pose #SFW #Skirt #Bed #Plushy #Femboy #Shaved #Smooth #Cute #Athletic #LongHair #LGBTQ #Trans #Gay #eGirl #eBoy #Sissy #Muscle #Silly #Comfy #Pale #Anime #Fashion #Pride #Fishnets #Fang #CrossDresser #NeuroDivergent #Twink #Autistic #Tummy #Kawaii #Trap #NonBinary #Socks #Masked #RoseBoy #ThighHighs #Feminine #CropTop #Blushing #PaleSkin #MTF
We love sharing trans history at any time of the year, but at the moment it's #DisabilityHistoryMonth and it's a great opportunity for us to share this piece from Rooted in Rights. '4 Activists Who Make Me Proud to Be Disabled and Transgender' https://rootedinrights.org/4-activists-who-make-me-proud-to-be-disabled-and-transgender/
On 6 December Kemi Badenoch MP, Minister for Women and Equalities, announced an update to the list of ‘approved countries or territories’ under the Gender Recognition Act (GRA). This impacts who may apply for a UK Gender Recognition Certificate (GRC) via the ‘overseas route’ – a process for people who have legally changed gender outside of the UK.
Read our full response to the Minister's statement and the comments made following it at:
I see plenty of timeline photos on here. It's important to take photos to see the changes because the changes can be subtle. Very subtle.
Photo on the right was taken in July of 2019. First day.
Photo on the left is from this morning. Yes, I need to clean my glasses. Two days worth of #scruff
I also wanted to post this to show that HRT isn't just about the medicine. It's about the effort. And some of the amazing ladies you see on here have put in a 1000 times more effort to get to where they're at. If you're claiming it's just HRT, you're doing yourself a disservice. Be proud of everything you've done to be your true self!!
On my list for the past few years are new glasses and some electrolysis. Just haven't gotten there yet.
“On a good day I catch a glimpse of myself, a reason to grin. My smile feels like a blessing, permission to enjoy my existence and embrace the coming day.” Isolde
What helps you embrace the days, even on a cold and wintry Thursday?
Ok red alert, Vico Ortiz is in a web comedy show that just debuted and it's all about queer stuff and it is good https://youtube.com/@TheseThems?si=9vb34fR5XCjyWT1n #LGBTQ #trans #nonbinary
Femboy does a singular meditation!
What if I experience zen or like, mindfulness or something silly? X3
#Meditation #Zen #Relaxation #Mindfulness #SFW #Skirt #Bed #Plushy #Femboy #Shaved #Smooth #Cute #Athletic #LongHair #LGBTQ #Trans #Gay #eGirl #eBoy #Sissy #Muscle #Silly #Comfy #Pale #Feminine #Choker #Pride #PaleSkin #Twink #RoseBoy #Fang #MTF #Fashion #Masked #CrossDresser #CropTop #Kawaii #Fishnets #Blushing #Trap #Autistic #NeuroDivergent #Anime #Socks #NonBinary
I had a revelatory experience the other day.
I read about a #nonbinary person in the newspaper. The person was referred to using 'she/her' pronouns. Must be wrong, I thought. When I checked the website of that person, it used 'she/her' pronouns as well. The picture showed a person who looked the way many women do.
And I thought: Wow, so that's an option, too 🤯
You can be explicitly non-binary and just keep your pronouns if they seem like the best option available to you. You can just keep on looking the way you look if this is the best option right now.
I don't have to instantly become a non-binary poster boy with androgynous looks who uses different pronouns than before in every context and language. I am allowed to consider myself to be non-binary (i.e., relinquish the constraints imposed by masculinity), but without adopting a new set of constraints.
This has 'me' written all over it. Barely started something new and I am already overfulfilling, trying to do it 'properly' rather than finding my way.
Finally getting my hair done today. I wish I could afford it regularly; maybe someday. I always feel more like myself with vibrant colors. Going pink and purple today. :3
I embraced pink years ago to directly confront my lifelong hatred of the color thanks to internalized misogyny. When I later embraced my #nonbinary identity, it felt freeing to simply enjoy a color.
And I've always loved purple. Feels right that it's both on my enby and #bisexual flags. 💜 :HeartNonbinary: :HeartBisexual:
I've finally made a backup of the thread. (I mean, I already lost episode 03 (it was my fault since I use the auto-deletion feature and forgot to self-fav the toot), but fortunately I could recover it from the notes in my diary.) This is your daily reminder to not rely on other people's computers to store data that is important to you.
So I've already written >2k words in this thread, and almost 12k characters! 📝 Having my progress recorded was very important to me, but sometimes I think I should have been a bit more detailed. There were some recurring themes like "again less need to shave" and "less dysphoria", and at least the first thing could have objectively been measured. Some people wrote more detailed blogs about their transition, but I don't have the spoons for making it that detailed, and also this isn't science 👩. I'm just recording (not documenting) the general progress of my treatment and my recovery from this aspect of gender dysphoria.
I realized that I used to present more feminine/androgynous when I was younger. Around 2008, when I began a career in healthcare, that changed. Patients would not take me seriously. Nor would other techs. So I began making small changes. Cutting my hair shorter. Modulating my voice so it was deeper. Letting my facial hair grow out. Acting/dressing more masculine even though that is not me. And that all worked. I got more respect and treated differently. Those things have only been reinforced since I started teaching.
The thing is, now that I know I want to transition, things like modulating my voice back is actually taking thought and intention. I lost my original voice. I lost the original me to conform to cishet norms. I’m shaving that awful face hair I hate. Gonna let my hair grow out. Figuring out my dress style again. Using a voice I haven’t heard in many years. Coming out has helped me realize I loved the me I was. And it’s that version of me’s turn to live again. #trans #nonbinary
Your voice matters and our friends at the Patients Association need to hear from you (you don't have to be trans, this is open to cis people too). Take a moment to take part in the Patient Experience of Diagnostics Survey and help improve diagnostic services. https://bit.ly/3GlGxEr
Can relate - some days my gender feels just like this article on String Theory ...
"But for the math to work, there have to be more than four dimensions in our universe. This is because our usual space-time doesn't give the strings enough "room" to vibrate in all the ways they need to in order to fully express themselves as all the varieties of particles in the world. They're just too constrained.
"Current versions of string theory require 10 dimensions total, while an even more hypothetical über-string theory known as M-theory requires 11"
Consider the femboy
Oh, well, ummm, I mean, I guess if you think about it like that way!
#Think #SFW #Skirt #Bed #Plushy #Femboy #Shaved #Smooth #Cute #Athletic #LongHair #LGBTQ #Trans #Gay #eGirl #eBoy #Sissy #Muscle #Silly #Comfy #Pale #Socks #RoseBoy #Masked #Fang #NeuroDivergent #Fashion #PaleSkin #Anime #Blushing #NonBinary #CrossDresser #Trap #Feminine #MTF #CropTop #Kawaii #Gloves #Tummy #Autistic #Twink #Pride
alrighty, listings for prints and tees for 'trans the world' and 'slightly weird man club' are up at https://riverside-refuge.square.site/ ! working on adding them to my @coopartisans storefront as well
as usual, for more colors, styles, etc than are available in the default listing - just talk to me!
“Getting now to work as an artist and a musician in hours that work for me, looking after my disabilities in a life that is queer and fulfilling is wonderful, and every single trans person should be afforded the same feeling of love and respect.” Emory
We had a pronoun incident this morning.
By "incident" I mean "my wife just learned that I'm using she/they and prefer 'she' instead of using they/she or they/them." And to be clear, she "just learned" because I apparently neglected to tell her.
I forgot to tell my own damn partner my pronoun preference had changed.
And here I was trying to work up the courage to tell her "Hey, 'they' is fine, but I do prefer 'she' these days." Turns out ... I never told her in the first place!
Who's the dumb tran now? (Me. It me.)
#NonBinary #Transgender #Trans #Tran
Whelp. My first potential suitor since coming out and being single ghosted me after a little over a day. 🤣 FFS this is what being single is gonna be like isn’t it‽
To be clear, I wasn’t necessarily wanting to date anyways. But it was nice to flirt with someone who seemed interested and okay with me transitioning later. The short experience (along with a good friend) also reminded me that I should start PrEP just in case I go out and want to be physical with someone. 🍆
Local groups kinda suck so far. Reaching out trying to make connections with the community here and getting silence back. Luckily I have friends here I can turn to for questions and support.
Also looks like starting HRT will be a bit easier than I thought. The laws changed here so I just have to find a doctor willing to start me on it. I’m not quite ready for that part yet, but it’s good to know for when I do start. 👩⚕️
I never thought I would get the chance to be where I am now, at 26, with my transition and my disabilities, so now I look forward to what aging will be like for me.
Perhaps it's silly, but I think it's important that trans people get to enjoy ageing, even if it's normal for everyone to say things like “Don’t grow old.” I want to see what it's like.
"UK government has ‘blacklist’ of countries that let people transition ‘too easily’"
This is at least partly because of Ryan Castellucci's (@firstname.lastname@example.org) legal case to have their gender #nonbinary recognised, which would even be in accordance with UK law.
You can support Ryan in their legal case against the UK government here: https://www.crowdjustice.com/case/non-binary-recognition/
Yoga femboy stretch time!
Get some flexibility, relax, and work on your body!
#Yoga #Stretch #NSFW #SFW #Skirt #Bed #Plushy #Femboy #Shaved #Smooth #Cute #Athletic #LongHair #LGBTQ #Trans #Gay #eGirl #eBoy #Sissy #Muscle #Silly #Comfy #Pale #Pride #Blushing #CropTop #Trap #Feminine #NeuroDivergent #RoseBoy #Choker #Autistic #CrossDresser #PaleSkin #NonBinary #Anime #Fashion #Fang #Kawaii #MTF #Masked #Twink
Our friends at @BlackBeetleHealth have just launched a new guide on breast cancer for LGBTQ+ people of colour. Check it out at https://www.blackbeetlehealth.co.uk/breast-cancer-guide-lgbtq-bpoc
Scientific research on people is weird and random and chaotic and unpredictable because *people* are weird and random and chaotic and unpredictable.
But that also means that where we don't have lots of rich research, especially on trans folks, myth and community lore creep in. This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're going to look at What We Know About Trans Brains, and talk about how we build scientific knowledge along the way!
TransActual welcome the news that GANHRI have decided to initiate a special review into the EHRC, while regretting that such a review is necessary in the first place. We have been deeply concerned about the EHRC for some time and, together with our partners in the LGBTQ+ sector, first wrote to GANHRI with our concerns in 2022. You can read the full statement at https://transactual.org.uk/blog/2023/12/04/statement-on-ganhri-review-of-the-ehrc-a-call-for-an-independent-appointments-commission/
More on gender identity ...
I jokingly call myself "zengender" as I hold my identity with a light touch. But the closet term we have is "suprawoman" as I'm more than the obvious - a little of my experience pushes into areas we might term genderqueer
So how do I know? ... life experience and realization via close and dear enby friends. Lots of chatting over the years. I adore how many non-binary folk unpack their gender(s) bottom-up and to the N-th degree. As I have shared exactly that deconstructive approach, I'm in awe of you :heart_nb:
Well IRL the term "woman" works. I can own that fully too - simply because I am, it's hard to deny. This is why after a point of self-awareness all these words can become more tags for others than oneself ... one lets go and swims in gender 🏊♀️🏝️🐟
Anyway, a selfie of a 50-ish woman scrubbing up okay on a Monday morning in her favorite coffee place ☕ Rubs estrogel performatively ...
Dian is a Ugandan trans woman who moved to Kenya to seek safety. Like many trans people seeking asylum in Kenya, Dian is struggling to access things like food and shelter. Donate if you can https://www.spotfund.com/story/e5e1adfc-be7a-4ded-99e5-c9c4ee428719?source=c&share_location=s&SFID=qqjkscs&referral_id=af73cac0-6698-48c0-a02e-c856bcb1db8e
Bald ist es soweit: Bis zum Jahresende erscheint unsere Single „Deine Wahrheit". #Trans #queer #nonbinary #nonbinarypride #youarequeerenough #queerpride #queerartists #queerculture #queermusic #translivesmatter #transgender #transpride #transisbeautiful #transrights #transbeauty #transvisibility #nonbinaryartist #nonbinarygender #nonbinarypride / #früchtedeszorns #memorandaband #merlecello #revoltespringen #kleinkunstpunk #kleinkunst #kleinkunstemo #rotzfrecheasphaltkultur
“The lotus is a flower that grows deep in the mud. The deeper and thicker the mud, the more beautiful it blossoms.”
My favorite flower. It’s a reminder of how much I’ve experienced how much more I have to grow. I finally feel free to start becoming the me I’ve felt inside since I was a child. My one regret is not having started this journey sooner. Lost time that I will never get back. But I also know things happen the way they do for a reason. I have friends now who I can talk to. Family who have become stronger allies than I could ever have imagined. I don’t have to transition alone. And I am so very fortunate to have everyone in my life now. Today I meet with my mom to chant with the Buddhists. It’s a good time to reconnect with that spiritual side of me and reflect on the path ahead. “To the journey!”🥂 #trans #nonbinary
Having posted that toot, I remembered what triggered those thoughts...
People I meet for the first time or for the first time after coming out keep telling me that I have so much positive energy - positivity - that I make them happy just by them meeting me. It is weird. Today, I went to #PeraMeze - no, I didn't, I was walking through Munich with my wife and we ended up at Gärtnerplatz. Then, after buying some beautiful, gorgeous clothes for my wife we decided to walk around and when we reached the corner where I'd normally turn to Pera, I wanted to continue walking but my wife instinctively turned towards Pera and I? Well, I just followed here.
We weren't hungry or anything. Then we decided we could just go in and have a coffee/cremant/wine and leave. Anyway, when we arrived there it was quite empty and the three people working there looked a bit bored, even disappointed (later on, I realized that was the case the whole day because it had snowed so much that people couldn't actually get out or get there, because no public transport or cars were running).
Anyways, we got there, opened the door, entered. The three I mentioned were looking really a bit sad-ish, but when they saw us entering, all three of them lighted up like candles at a Christmas tree after dark.
Two of them even specifically said "oh, so wonderful that you come today. It was a weird day, but your positive energy is already giving us happiness." (this sounds way better and more poetic in Turkish, so, yeah you need add some magic to it).
And this was not the first time I heard. More people than I can count told me that I seem to exude positive energy (I am not saying "optimism") and people seem to somehow "magically" lose some of their sadness when they see me.
And I don't think that this is because I am a trans person, but rather that transition helped me to get the fullness of my gender to the forefront and with that to complete my character. I seem to always have had this positive energy, but it was hidden, somewhere under all that weird social construct of binary sex.
And in my opinion it took me about one year to get out that whole gender into the open - a whole year of transitioning.
I love this, I love my life, and I love if I bring happiness to sad people by just being me...
Edit: forgot the link to the other toot https://tau-ceti.space/@ics/111513129701110221
Nobody teaches you how to be a patient, and some of us come into more contact with health professionals than others. In TransActual's Nobody Teaches You How To Be A Patient resource, you can find put how our contributors (all disabled, chronically ill or neurodivergent trans people) overcame the barriers that they faced.
Me: FL > OH > NY > HK > MD
Somewhat hesitant to post because today is not about me, but I’m headed to my grandpa’s funeral to be a pallbearer. Lots of emotions.
1. It’s been tough being misgendered so much by family.
2. My grandpa never – not once – said anything (not even jokingly) about my appearance: makeup, hair, or otherwise.
3. My mom, bless her heart, when asking me to be a pallbearer, said, “It’s not just men who do it these days.”
Into podcasts? We love Simply Equality with Sarah Stephenson-Hunter. It's an open, honest exploration of the lived realities of disabled and LGBT+ people. In each episode, Sarah talks to guests about their lives as disabled and LGBT+ people.
My first attempt at changing my presentation to reflect my changing identity (veering toward the #nonbinary, making me less constrained by masculine role models) will likely involve earrings.
They are quick and easy to put on and take off, they can be affordable and they are fairly visible.
I will have to buy earclips, as I don't have pierced ears. I seemed to remember that my late mother did not have pierced ears either. She did not wear a lot of jewellery, so I am not 100% sure.
We are currently visiting my father, so I wondered if it would be nice if I ended up wearing some of her jewellery. But I couldn't find her jewel box when I looked for it yesterday, so I decided that this was probably a sign that I should just buy my own stuff.
Any recommendations for buying affordable jewelry with explicitly queer designs (e.g., 🏳️🌈, :flag_nonbinary: or something along these lines)?
If you're a person that does Christmas shopping, how are you getting on with it? Remember that you can use easyfundraising (at no extra cost to you) on a wide range of shops and raise donations for TransActual. Whether it's an online food shop or some of those great offers at high street retailers, you can support TransActual while you shop.
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Gender experientially these days feels more and more like a huge ocean I swim in:
🔹 one can paddle around in the safe areas of the gender binary 🤽♀️
🔹 one can swim 🏊♀️ out to near islands 🏝️ of non-binariness
🔹 one can become an ocean swimmer 🌊 seeking knowledge outside the binary
🔹 finally one becomes a deep sea diver seeking gender in its purest forms 🤿
Down in the Mariana trenches of gender you will meet dangerous creatures 🦈 🐡 yes (!) but the perspective is amazing 💡
... words like binary and non-binary become equally meaningless
... the Answer to "Gender, the Universe and Everything" is 42 of course but
... we're still working on the Question
Fancy a swim?
Jazzie Collins was a Black, trans, HIV+ woman. Her campaigning and organizing highlights the way in which so many of our struggles are linked. Jazzie campaigned on economic inequality, housing issues, disability rights and trans rights.
Bobbie Lea Bennett campaigned for access to transition related surgery in the US to be covered by Medicare. Her campaign forced Medicare officials to recognize transition related surgeries as essential. Bobbie was also a disability rights campaigner.
being #nonbinary is great because your gender can be like a grapefruit and other nonbinary people will understand but cis people will be so fucking confused at what's going on
Poll for TRANS & NONBINARY people:
I want to do an informal survey to get a sense of the age demographics of trans people and at what age they started transitioning or presenting openly. This is the UPDATED version of the earlier poll.
INSTRUCTIONS: Please answer this poll about your current age, then go down the thread to find the poll for your current age demographic and answer the second poll there about transition/presentation age.
Thanks ahead of time to all who participate! PLEASE BOOST
QUESTION: What is your current age group?
Disabled people are a vital and integral part of our communities and movements for change. In this piece, meet some queer and trans people fighting for an accessible world:
Can't wait to see Vernon Lee. Never heard of before, but learned: "his childhood friend, the writer Vernon Lee (whose real name was Violet Paget). Lee liked to dress in masculine clothing. "
It's almost like #nonbinary existed before...
While we don't know when it will be, we do know there will be a general election next year. Make sure you know what the ID requirements are for voting (and what the alternatives are if you don't have ID) in our guide for trans people: http://transactual.org.uk/vote/
This #DisabilityHistoryMonth, we're of course talking about disabled trans people from history, but we're also going to highlight some of the people working for change now.
Read this piece from ILGA: 'Meet these powerful activists in the intersection of LGBTI and disabilities.
“I have never known a silence like the one fallen here
Never watched my future darken in a single tear
I know we want this to go easy by being somebody’s fault
But we’ve gone long enough to know this isn’t what we want
And that isn’t always bad.”
It is all but official. I didn't want things to end. But we can't pretend things won't change. We can't pretend we aren't hurting inside. I love him & always will. Part of that is letting go.
Sometimes, love isn't enough. No matter how much we pretend love can conquer all. But again, that isn't a bad thing.
All old things are new again. After 18 years, I have to learn to navigate this world on my own all over again. Transitioning on my own. Making friends irl. Things to do solo. Dating. Oh, gods, how does one date these days‽
I am due my T shot on Thursday and I think I need to talk to my endo about shortening the span by a week next time. I’ve had 2 Nebido shots at this point, so the second one was after only 2 months because loading phase, and now for the first time it’s been 3 months between second and third shot.
I’ve been feeling iffy for about a week or so but at this point I am feeling actively murderous. I am quite clearly running on the wrong hormones. Curious what blood test before my shot will show.
Right now, I’m just not sure how I will get to Thursday without non-stop screaming at the world. How the fuck did I live like this for 38 years?
Please, it is terrible. I have shit to do this week and I don’t feel like I can do any of it right now! 😭
Hello, I’m Russell T Davis and I decided to tack on something about Rose being non-binary for shits and giggles. I did this despite the character being portrayed as a teenage transsexual woman who has transitioned at school, gone through medical treatment, and presents totally female binary.
“I haven’t been attracted to you in a long time. And I don’t think I can be attracted to you if you look like a woman.”
Those words have been on my mind for two days. My self-image and self-worth are all fucked rn. So today was trying to relax and not think about it. While also looking at options in a worst case scenario.
I know I will likely want to medically transition in some way. Feminizing HRT at the least, which will change my body. Yet, even as I know I will look more like I feel… I wonder if anyone will find me attractive again.
Of course, the rational side of me knows better. But I’m still human & those words, though expected, still cut deep. Coming out a second time isn’t any easier than the first. I have the tools I gained the last 20 yrs, but those feelings of self-doubt and fear of rejection are as strong as ever.
So tonight, fuck those insecurities. I’m treating myself to a night I deserve. Let the waters wash those emotions away.
Unlearning your own internalized, binary thinking takes determination and time.
Learning to embrace yourself as an exception to the gender binary takes effort and time.
Give yourself some room to mess up in the process. It’s not a failing. It’s natural.
Bad News / Good News
Remember the bra I was wearing in the summer? The push-up/push-together bra that made my boobs look really big?
Well, unfortunately I have to buy those bras anew.
That's the bad news.
The good news?
Because they don't fit anymore, they have become too small for my boobs.