My experience of dating apps is brutal 😅. I know I’m a decent catch, but my hit rate - just getting ladies to engage in messaging, receiving likes etc is lousy. I’ve had just one date in the last 3 months of being on the apps. At least I’m getting used to the rejection now so it’s not quite as painful as it was at first 😬
So Apart We’ve Grown
One of these daysI'm gonna sit down and write a long letterTo all the good friends I've knownAnd I'm gonna tryAnd thank them all for the good times togetherThough so apart we've grown— Neil Young, One of These Days
Talking to an old friend, we asked each other about other old friends. Who have we seen? Who has drifted away? How are the kids? I
#Seasons #Culture #Memory #Music #Relationships #NeilYoung
“Not all of us can help who we fall in love with!” Delia argues.
“We should!” Tessa cried out.
“No sane, sensible, or smart female should go around falling in love with guys with questionable characters that will put their life at risk. These are violent men!”
While we have a desire for:
...it's important to remember what those mean at deeper levels, as we...
embrace themes of letting go and trusting the process. 🍃
More about the deeper meaning of the planetary alignments in this video! https://youtu.be/fnG27DOr9O0
I know it’s ridiculous but every time I discover a woman is lesbian, I feel a pang of ‘damn she’s out of my reach’.
Autostraddle: You Need Help: How Do I Make Myself Like My Girlfriend’s Cat? https://www.autostraddle.com/how-do-i-make-myself-like-my-girlfriends-cat/?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=how-do-i-make-myself-like-my-girlfriends-cat #Dykes #LGBT #LGBTQ #Trans #Lesbian #2SLGBTQ #Podcast #Relationships #Pets&Animals #youneedhelp
Impact of social media and instant messaging apps on interpersonal relationships
Instant messaging apps like WhatsApp, Telegram Messenger, Signal Messenger etc. (primarily WhatsApp in India) do boost one to one connectivity among friends, acquaintances and family members. It also helps improve communication related to mostly once in a while transactional and sometimes friendly topics like family matters, medical, school and college education, fun side of personal life through photos and videos. Jokes and memes, through forwards, add spices to one to one communication. Group chats and social media like Facebook and Twitter strongly influences one to one communication through instant messengers.
There is another side of instant messaging i.e. the not so nice aspects. Dopamine is a brain chemical that plays a vital role in mood regulation of human beings. It seems that entire society is driven by the feel good factor due to constant availability of cheap dopamine through group chats and social media. Unless it is transactional or related to business, most one to one chats survive as long as the recipients gets positive social stimulus and dopamine influx. It doesn’t matter if something is good or healthy for us, as long as we get that quick dopamine fix.
From my experience of chatting since the days of Yahoo! Chat, I see that loss of reward stimuli and dopamine activity lead to one or both the recipients disengage at the slightest pretext. Read receipts, online status, last seen status etc. further add to anxiety and feeling unimportant or betrayed. There is lack of patience and empathy. Sharing contrarian or critical views, on matters connected to society and politics, often cause functional impairment and getting ignored or blocked.
Reference: Dopamine, Smartphones & You: A battle for your time
#Life #Wellness #InstantMessaging #Dopamine #Smartphone #Relationships
In #relationships, there are often two conflicting truths that need to be managed. For example, an #anxiousPartner may need predictability, but their partner may need space to process. It's important for both partners to #beFlexible and willing to meet each other's needs in order to navigate these paradoxes.
Love inspires us to go the extra mile and make sacrifices for the ones we care about. Check out this article to learn more about the things we do for love: https://medium.com/the-daily-cuppa-grande/the-things-we-do-for-love-1ba58c73fbf0?sk=v2%2Fa1fccfc0-c53e-463f-ba84-789e694b5e3f
What is the return on investment (ROI) from attending an event? Here's my definition: Conversations => Relationships => Value.
Bathroom rules, new handshakes and a privilege paradox: what Max has learnt as a trans man
An 'out-of-body experience' set Max Simensen on a course to changing his life and living authentically. He shares what he has learnt along the way.
I’ve been told by a few therapists that I need to learn to love myself before looking for anyone else to love me. I’ve been on dating apps for a few weeks now and have realised that I am looking for someone like me: sporty, intelligent, decent income but not overly bothered about work, sense of humour. Perhaps I do love myself after all.
Beaverton: Editorial: Women must date unpleasant men, and we’re not just saying that because we’re unpleasant men https://www.thebeaverton.com/2023/12/editorial-women-must-date-unpleasant-men-and-were-not-just-saying-that-because-were-unpleasant-men/ #satire #canada #commentary #relationships #FeaturedPost #Editorial #Marriage #dating
Anal sex is not for everyone
Excruciata Reees-Mog gives her advice on the sticky topic of fishing for brown trout. She also explores the etiquette surrounding ass jazz.
Hello my lovelies. The other day one of the ladies (who I will not name) at the golf club took me to one side and quietly asked me what I thought of nudging the fudge. I looked bemused.
Rekindled Relationships An Emotional Portrait
Met in a forgotten vintage cinema lobby, two lovers separated for years reconnect in bittersweet nostalgia
See More Seeds: https://aidyslexic.raupulus.dev/collections/show/744
Unfortunately, #TheLWord is one of very few #examples that allow for #sapphic #relationships to take #centerstage, and the range of #lesbian and #bisexual representation #doesn’t seem to be widening even though we are 2 decades deep into the 21st Century.
When partners feel they can reach each other and that they matter to each other, they’ll be in a better position to work through life’s challenges.
How can you help your partner know that their needs matter to you, and that you also need to be heard? How can you work together instead of going at it like enemies? How can you create emotional safety BEFORE trying to talk about hard things?
Free report! Convenings 2.0: Connecting adult learning, communication strategies, and event logistics to build stronger relationships.
**WOMEN AT FAULT FOR POLITICAL DIVIDE: MARRY A MAGA MAN!**
Ridiculous concern trolling by *The Washington Post's* editors, too cowardly to put a byline for the author, really showcases how #incel grievance has become normalized.
They argue *someone will have to compromise *(meaning women) or else marriage rates will tumble. I think women may have already found their own alternative.🤔
Did you know you can check when your followers were last active on #InfosecExchange?
Love holds no promise
affections fading into
memories and change...
#love #lovers #loveart #sky #blue #red #heart #hearts #romantic #romance #relationships #memories #memory #art #artwork #gift #gifts #giftidea #giftideas #fedigiftshop #haiku #poem #poems #poetry #poets #writing #writingcommunity #AYearForArt #BuyIntoArt
They mainly focus on close #relationships, including #romantic #love, and more broadly, what attracts us to others from #psychological, #anthropological, #cultural, and #evolutionary perspectives. 🥰️ If you want to join the team or read more about the research they are conducting, visit https://martakowal.com/join! 👨💻️
Tuesday's #ruling came in response to a #city #government #appeal in December against a #2020 #court #decision that same-sex married couples should enjoy equal rights under the city's inheritance laws.
One of the very first things I did when first elected back in 2016 was secure a review into the delivery of Personal & Social Education in our schools, particularly Relations, Sexual Health & Parenthood Education (RSHE). It’s taken a while but the end result of that review has now arrived; massively improved draft guidance for the delivery of RSHE.
"I want the delicious validation that comes from being desired, even if I’m just begging scraps of it from a boy who I know wouldn’t hesitate to hurt me for fun. I pop on my rose-tinted glasses and focus so hard on the good that the bad stuff passes me by."
https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/my-first-kisses-one-two-three/ This time last year. Tell me about your own first kisses in the comments if you have good stories.
life would be dreary
without a someone to love
I am feeling blessed...
*Shout out to my Hubby of 22 years!! Sometimes that someone is a friend, a sibling, a neighbor or a pet. And don't forget to LOVE yourself!
#MastoPrompt - dreary
⭐ The Superintendents from the 3 school districts in the El Paso region are attending this weekend's benefit!
🎓 We are eager to continue our work with school systems in an effort to engage students about important issues like consent, healthy relationships, and teen dating violence!
My Life As A Porcelain Dog: Part 2
A porcelain dog has no individuality. It is merely meant to be displayed.
I describe in this article how someone in my family (guess who?) treats me as a porcelain dog, to be displayed, but not allowed to have individuality. I am loved, but this love is the love that one has for a car, a computer, or a porcelain dog. Not the type of love one should direct at an individual.
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NEW blog! Completely SFW (I KNOW SHOCK).
How much weight do you give your friends' opinions on your partners? Would you break up with someone if your friends told you to?
Men, if you could do it over, would you wait longer before having sex in your current or most recent relationship?
★ For the slightly longer questions (& chance to win a free 45-minute coaching session with me or a colleague please see forms.gle/2ePLjfdwDtMKpU3J6
Humans are complex and weird and brilliant and we are very rarely going to be satisfied with the company of only one person.
That isn't to say we should all embrace #nonmonogamy though...
A 35-year-old virgin who has never been kissed says it is because she picks nights in with cake over socialising.
Get on mastodon Anya, we'd love to have you, eat cake AND get friends!
#news #love #relationships
If you've been noticing people exiting your life lately, some as quickly as they entered, that's the South Node being in #Libra.
Let Libra cook. It's for your highest good. Libra values integrity and relationships(career, friendship, lovers, family) being released with the SN energy is exactly what some of you need to move further into your purpose.
"This man fucked me like he *meant it*. And oh God, put me out of my misery now please: if this man turns out not to mean it, I will shatter."
NEW blog, in which I fall face-first into a man, and @stuart_cb manages to capture that exact scared/soft feeling you get when you think you really like someone...
Share it if you like it, pls. I pay my bills with this vulnerability.
I wrote a sweet, sad, pretty, ultimately hopeful ballad for anyone who has ever gone through, or is going through, a tough breakup.
Please check out Not Mine Anymore as my pre-release demo and let me know if you like it. If you do, please share it and that will encourage me to write more songs.
I can only avoid ‘catching feelings’ if I stop doing anything affectionate or sexy with men. And where the fuck is the fun in *that*?
NEW blog, about 'catching feelings' - complete with EXTREMELY cute art by @stuart_cb
https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/how-do-you-avoid-catching-feelings/ #relationships #love #feelings
I am so tempted, so often, to tell young women I see who are out with men that speak to them rudely or treat them apathetically, "You deserve respect and an equal partner in life."
I never do it, because I worry it wouldn't be well received, but I could have used hearing that a few times in my life.
Maybe injecting myself into the relationships of strangers needs to be my post-40 vibe.
" If I genuinely like a guy, I don’t want to turn him into an awkward one-night-stand story or a horrible memory to block out later down the line."
One from this time last year about the importance of saying 'no'
‟Ghosting Has Gone Way Too Far”
‟When exactly did it become abnormal—rude, even—to expect a reply?”
@jeffowski My version of this is the little teapot I commented on in a shop window. I don’t want a big expensive gift on my birthday, that I could honestly buy myself…I want to know you were listening to me and went back and bought me that $10 teapot just because & on a random day to make me smile. #Relationships
New Episode of Gender Sex and Tech!!
Relying on work by Hilde Lindemann, I work through some of the ethical and existential questions that arise as more people form relationships with chatbots. This episode is part of #TBRpodcastcarnival2023
Get it here, or wherever you get your podcasts!
"I’m trying to be up front about the things I like. When men do that to me it feels miraculous."
https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/date-did-not-have-sex/ One from this time last year <3 #Dating #Sex #Relationships
- Giving your new beau your wifi password
- Learning how they take their tea/coffee
- Farting in front of each other
- Bareback, obviously
My suggestions for an alternative (and way more fun) #RelationshipEscalator...
https://www.girlonthenet.com/blog/alternative-relationship-escalator/ Surprise silly Wednesday blog! Suggest your own steps too if you like!
the thing about #fedi is that there aren’t enough lunatics. Where are the #crazy girls posting about their unhealthy obsessive #relationships . the addicts. the kleptos. that one guy from tiktok that thinks he’s the reincarnation of H—ler.
what we need is clinical insanity on this lovely federated platform it’s what makes the hoes stick around
#live #laugh #love #drama
ADRIAN VANDENBERG Says STEVE VAI 'Kind Of Apologized' For His Behavior In WHITESNAKE
Following on from Steve Vai's admission that he was "a bit of a prima donna" during his stint in WHITESNAKE
Working with software libraries is quite akin to maintaining a relationship.
First you put in effort to get to know it.
If you jive, it feels magical!
Eventually you learn some of what makes it tick.
As you each grow, some things change or go away.
Too much time apart regresses toward step one.
And sometimes needs aren't met or things get so complicated and frustrating there's no choice but to break up.
Software truly is communication - in multiple ways!
Anyway, it’s Sunday so that means time for a new blog: here’s an ode to casual horn, and the fun little sexual delights that I miss from when I had a live-in partner…
It might not be logical to believe your relationship is “meant to be” – but many of us believe it.
This belief in destined love may have evolved as a way to keep couples together long enough to reproduce and raise children.