ok. it's gonna be hot girl winter 2024 babies because i am filing for #DIVORCE
A close friend is also going through a #separation. She's the one person who fully understands what I'm going through, so we get together and talk for hours, knowing that we won't judge or get bored.
But we're different too. Every minute of a separation is challenging, but I'm determined to get through it without bitterness. Just because she doesn't want to be with me doesn't mean my wife is a bad person.
My friend is different. "I need to hate him," she says. "It makes me happy."
From 29 Nov: Conservatives Want So Badly To Keep Women From Being Able To Get Divorced - Conservatives have an unhealthy and radical obsession with trying to control people’s personal live... https://www.themarysue.com/conservatives-problem-with-ban-no-fault-divorce-explained/ #divorce #matt-walsh #right-wing-media
Doubs : après la mort d'une mère et de ses jumelles, "on est traumatisé" dit la boulangère du village - France Bleu
Housing Costs Are So High That Divorced Couples Are Still Living Together
#ycombinator #wsjlifework #Monetary_Policy #Interest_Rates #Economic_News #Political_General_News #Society_Community #Marriage_Divorce #SYND #WSJ_PRO_WSJ_com #LINK_i7_WP_WSJ_0001371498 #LINK_i6_WP_WSJ_0001371498 #LINK_i3_WP_WSJ_0001371498 #LINK_i4_WP_WSJ_0001371498 #LINK_i5_WP_WSJ_0001371498 #LINK_i2_WP_WSJ_0001371498 #political #general_news #society #community #marriage #divorce
All relationships are about trust. If your spouse has an emotional or physical relationship outside of marriage, then it is an abuse of trust. It's over. Who would want a business partner that lies? Why is a spouse different? #infidelity #deceit #affairs #divorce https://www.washingtonpost.com/wellness/2023/10/13/affair-infidelity-disclosure/
Today in Labor History November 23, 1644: At the height of the English Civil War, John Milton published an anti-censorship pamphlet, “Areopagitica.” He had been censored several times, particularly in his attempts to defend divorce, a radical idea in those days. He anonymously published “The Doctrine and Discipline of Divorce” (1643), which was condemned by the Puritan clergy as heretical and supportive of sexual libertinism.
I’ve been over exercising and starving myself to lose weight. I know that I’m more attractive when I’m lean, so this is all part of looking for validation from others. I know that exercise and love addiction are my means of self medicating for the absence of love from my mum during my early years and childhood, and yet I seem unable to change. I’m also using these things to deal with the pain of my separation from my own kids since the #divorce. At least I’m not medicating with drugs.
Chris Appleton and Lukas Gage
Put their marriage on center stage
After just half a year
They've decided it's clear
That their love, alas, could not engage
Avez-vous des idées de ressources littéraires ou bédéesques pour expliquer à des enfants de 7-8 ans que mon ex et moi nous divorçons parce qu'elle ne m'aime plus depuis ma transition ?
[Post-scriptum de précision : ce n'est pas tant pour mes filles (qui semblent bien gérer la situation) que pour leurs camarades d'école qui leur posent des questions, et permettre aux instits d'en parler en classe]
A new bill wants to criminalize ‘coercive’ conduct in Canada. What is it?
Turns out there's a MASSIVE spike in divorces in 1981 & 1982.
Like, 1980:9%, 1981:11.9%, 1982:17.1%(!!), 1983:13.3% - and then it stabilises back out at about 11% for the next 30 odd years.
Anyone know what might be the cause of that?
Incidentally, there's also a precipitous plummit in marriages after 1971. Any known reasons for that?
Anti-abortion, homophobic extremist Johnson wants to force women to stay in bad marriages https://www.dailykos.com/stories/2023/10/30/2202194/-The-new-Republican-House-Speaker-wants-to-force-women-to-stay-in-bad-marriages
One of those, his push to end no-fault divorce, is enjoying a resurgence as a goal of the far right in its efforts to impose their misogynist agenda on the rest of the country.
Another image based on “signs with history”.
This time it shows an ad for #Carriage rides offered by some Bavarian farmer. The sign says:
I wonder if someone really requested a ride for divorce.
Jezebel: Sex. Celebrity. Politics. With Teeth: Our New House Speaker Has Been Against No-Fault Divorce for Years https://jezebel.com/our-new-house-speaker-has-been-against-no-fault-divorce-1850967629 #Jezebel #christianviewsondivorce #conflictofdivorcelaws #covenantmarriage #nofaultdivorce #stevencrowder #socialissues #mediamatters #mikejohnson #johnknefel #mattwalsh #familylaw #adultery #feminism #marriage #politics #divorce #jdvance #jones #wade
New data show that about half of U.S. adults lived alone upon gray divorce, another one-third lived with others, and the remaining 14% lived with a new partner. Adults living with a new partner tended to exhibit the most advantaged sociodemographic profiles.
Read more: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/36842065/
Jezebel: Sex. Celebrity. Politics. With Teeth: Ashlyn Harris and Sophia Bush Insist They Were Initially 'Just Friends' https://jezebel.com/ashlyn-harris-and-sophia-bush-insist-they-were-initiall-1850963678 #Jezebel #humaninterest #ashlynharris #granthughes #sophiabush #alikrieger #thecannes #uswomen #divorce #suebird #ashlyn
Under #Louisiana #state #law, #couples sign a #document in which they agree to seek #maritalcounseling before getting a #divvorce. Additionally, couples can only get #divorced on a limited set of #grounds, including for #adultery, if one #partner committed a #felony or #faces #imprisonment, or #physical or #sexualabuse.
@juddlegum writes about your not-so-average #Johnson. He is severely #anti-#LGBTQ, wants to make sure that #women has problems getting a #divorce through covenant marriages, and was one of the chief architects of the 2020 #electionDenial efforts in #Congress.
Now he’s the #SpeakeroftheHouse and second in line to the presidency.
Read the #Substack article!
I went to pick up medicine at the local CVS pharmacy.
While I was waiting in line, a woman was talking to a child. Eventually, I realized that she was speaking French. So I asked her, and she's from France. She came to the US about 17 years ago. She asked me about my story and I mentioned that I came 26 years ago because of my ex-wife, but that we're now divorced. She said she was divorcing. I got my medicine and we parted way.
" :headache: She's divorcing. You're divorced. Why did you not hit on her?"
She looked great, no doubt. However, I'm not great about hitting on people IRL, out of the blue. Also, the chances that she'd be into me are pretty slim. She'd have to be happy with my pansexuality, my polyamory, my BDSM-ness, etc.
On my way to the pharmacy, I also checked out a local international grocery store. They have bananas. I might pick up some this weekend, and maybe get some other stuff.
Disciplinary measures include identity disclosure, travel bans and license suspensions.
Inaprubahan na ng Senate panel ang panukalang magkaroon ng divorce sa Pilipinas. Para sa’yo, dapat na bang gawing legal ang diborsyo?
Sa pamamagitan ng selfie video ipadala ang inyong sagot at paliwanag sa aming official Facebook page na Bayan Mo, Ipatrol Mo.
Basahin ang kaugnay na ulat: https://news.abs-cbn.com/video/news/09/22/23/divorce-bill-hurdles-ph-senate-committee-level
"What a Nine-Year-Old Kiwi Taught Me About Divorce the Other Day"
It’s been a big week - the final part of my #divorce settlement came through - implementation of the pension sharing order, and I’ve paid the final bill to the solicitor 😅. I’m getting there with my new (used) car in terms of sorting some teething issues - technical and bureaucratic with the DVLA 😬. And my ex’s cat has gone back to live with her. I’ve also started some workshop sessions with a mediator to try to build my kids’ confidence so that they’ll spend more time with me.
Machine Learning Could Predict Your Divorce https://researchinenglish.com/article/2023.9/new-research-uses-machine-learning-to-predict-divorce-6ffy0tnl
DIVORCE AS A MEN’S HEALTH ISSUE
In the US, divorced men are 2.5x more likely to commit suicide than married men, 4x more likely to commit suicide than divorced women.
Weds, Oct 18, I’ll be talking to men’s coach Max Trombly about “Men & Divorce & Healing” in this month’s Apprenticeship to Love virtual workshop.
Register at http://sacredbodies.ca/events
1500€ de frais d'#Avocat à avancer avant la fin de l'année :blob_sweat:
Sans compter les honoraires d'audiences inutile passées & à venir, et ce qui est déjà parti dans le #Divorce
Tout ca pour répondre à la désormais légendaire #Toxicité de mon ex-femme 🙄
Jezebel: Sex. Celebrity. Politics. With Teeth: Our National Nightmare Is Over: Sophie Turner and Joe Jonas Settle Custody Dispute https://jezebel.com/our-national-nightmare-is-over-sophie-turner-and-joe-j-1850914818 #Jezebel #joejonassettle #jonasbrothers #daniellejonas #sophieturner #socialissues #willturner #joejonas #delphine #divorce #sucker #jonas #willa #stay
It’s 2 years and 8 months since I left my ex-wife and I’m still waiting for the final legal stuff to complete - hopefully this week.
Whatever you do, don’t enter into #marriage lightly or for the wrong reasons. Sounds obvious but seriously, give it some thought and be really honest with yourself.
Today, I decided to pay a visit to the neighborhood in which I grew up as a kid. On my way there, I was reflecting on my childhood. Hong Kong by Gorillaz came on YouTube Music. (Yes, I play YouTube Music in my car.)
That's when it hit me.
What an eventful life I've lived! Who could have predicted it? I had a heart attack, and cancer. I've moved from Canada to the US to be with a lady for 26 years, though we're now divorced. I've been to India, Taiwan, and yes, Hong Kong, too. I have a bachelor's, a master's and a Ph.D. I've discovered late that I'm autistic. I've reasserted my true identity as pansexual and polyamorous, a little prior to discovering my autism.
Maybe my epitaph will read:
"If nothing else, this man has definitely led an eventful life."
In 2016, 2-year-old Insiya Hemani was abducted by a group of men sent by her father, Shehzad Hemani, while she was with her grandmother in Amsterdam. The men also assaulted the elderly woman. Despite efforts to find Insiya, she was smuggled out of the Netherlands without her passport. Shehzad Hemani was convicted in absentia and faces a nine-year prison sentence if apprehended. Insiya, now 8 years old, remains in captivity, with reports of her crying day and night.
Arrggghhh the nights without my kids are #lonely. The only friends I’ve made in this town are members of the congregation at the church I attend, and they’re all 60+. They’re lovely, but I can’t talk openly about 40 something men things with them. I guess I need to find a hobby so that I can meet more people. Perhaps I’ll go back to badminton.
Wife of “family values” Republican files for divorce over his alleged sexual affairs. Rabidly anti-LGBTQ+ Congressman Jeff Duncan allegedly left his wife and 3 kids to live with his sexual mistress.
A South Carolina GOP lawmaker says he's a 'strong advocate' for family values. His wife says he's had multiple affairs and is filing for divorce.
More Examples Of Friction Between My Ex- Wife And Me
As I reevaluate my life, I'm finding more examples of the friction that my autism caused between me and my ex-wife.
A government subcommittee proposed legal revisions that would allow for joint parental custody of children after divorce. https://www.japantimes.co.jp/news/2023/08/30/japan/society/joint-custody-divorce/?utm_content=bufferbda11&utm_medium=social&utm_source=mastodon&utm_campaign=bffmstdn #japan #society #parenthood #divorce #justiceministry #children #domesticviolence
Divorce rates for Americans in their first marriages continue to fall https://www.bgsu.edu/ncfmr/resources/data/family-profiles/westrick-payne-first-divorce-rate-2021-fp-23-18.html #divorce #PopMastodon #Demography
After leaving her marriage, Lyz Lenz found herself with stretches of time on her own. "Every day I was alone, I had to ask myself, What do I want to eat? The question seemed impossible," she says. For her Substack, she talked to Margaret Eby, who is working on a book about eating alone. "Margaret helped me understand how what we eat when we eat alone can help us become the purest expression of ourselves — in all our dirtbag glory," Lenz says.
"If the leopard caucuses long enough with the face eating party, maybe look askance when it asks you for butterfly kisses. That's all I'm saying."
Good general advice, and too-good-to-pass-up quote from sciatrix in the thread on "The Next Front in the GOP’s War on Women: No-Fault Divorce" post from hydra77.
I swear, i carry an ex husband’s last name like 2-3 years after divorce. As a certain type of self flagellation. #divorce
2/ So I can no longer talk about romance or work on the Twitter account. Sooo I talk about romance here.. and can say stuff about work that I wouldn't say with my name attached to it. So I guess in a long rambly kind of way, that's my personal #introduction thing for mastodon. You can also expect me to spam you with music that I'm currently listening to. And regular updates on my f*cked #mentalhealth. And thoughts about #relationships and #sex. And processing the emotions of #divorce.
Because it’s important to never lose yourself inside of the expectations and limitations of others, here is something to reflect on today:
“If I didn't define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people's fantasies for me and eaten alive” -Audre Lorde
#SelfCare #SelfLove #SelfAwareness #Healing #MentalHealthAwareness #Love #Peace #Individual #AudreLorde #Individuality #ProtectYourEnergy #DefineYourself #ProtectYourPeace #BlackMastodon #EmotionalAbuse #TraumaBonds #Trauma #YouTube #LifeCoach #Joy #Freedom #Truth #Light #HumanRights Mindfulness #FamilyTies #BlackSheep #Divorce #Family #Autonomy #SelfCareSunday #SilentSunday #Radicalselfcare #Boundaries #Depression #Anxiety #Voice #Question #KnowYourWorth
WHAT I SAID: I think I'm getting a divorce.
WHAT (some of) MY FRIENDS HEAR: I think I have leprosy.¹
¹ That had to be what they heard - from the way they start avoiding me. Listen, fool, I'm not going to start talking to you about it. And, as far as I know, #divorce isn't contagious.
My cancer, which was in my brain stem, and the treatment I got for it lessened my ability at masking my pansexuality, desire for polyamory, desire for BDSM, and my autism. I wrote an article about it:
#lgbtq #lgbtqia #queer #ComingOut #cancer #CreativeNonFiction #sex #BDSM #autism #ActuallyAutistic #pansexual #pansexuality #polyamory #polyamorous #divorce #lymphoma #PCNSLymphoma #CNS #PhysicalHealth #MentalHealth #BrainStem #chemo #StemCellTransplant #masking
Colorado Becomes the First State to Limit Court Use of Family Reunification Camps
A new bill restricts the use of reunification programs and requires domestic violence training for experts in custody cases. Lawmakers credit ProPublica’s reporting for exposing the need for reforms in the family court system.
Think GOP for all your hypocrisy needs!
Republicans Can't Stop Divorcing Long Enough To Make No Fault Divorce Illegal Again https://www.wonkette.com/republicans-can-t-stop-divorcing-long-enough-to-make-no-fault-divorce-illegal-again
Very insightful personal piece by one of the infosec people that I follow: https://infosec.exchange/@troyhunt/110303833124615778
This reminds me that my country is the only one (aside from the Vatican) that still doesn’t have legalized divorce, thus trapping far too many people in relationships that are irretrievably broken. More info: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Divorce_in_the_Philippines
Culpeper County, Virginia Will Abstracts 1791-1803 by Ruth Sparacio; Sam Sparacio
#culpepercounty, #virginia, #culpeper, #wills, #propertyrecords, #propertyownership, #wealthtransfers, #whitesupremacy, #antiblackness, #blackchattelslavery, #virginiahistory, #historyofvirginia, #genocide, #divorce, #courtrecords, #19thcentury, #unitedstatesofamerika, #capitalaccumulation, #capitalism, #nuclearfamily, #inheritance, #inheritances, #slaveowners, #slaveholders, #enslavers
This Antient Press publication contains entries from Culpeper County Will Book D, September 19, 1791 through April 19, 1803.
They want to give men automatic custody of kids in divorces. They want to legalize sexual harassment to drive women from the workplace and make them financially dependent on men. They want to end community property so women who leave their husbands will be destitute.
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@GottaLaff @jysexton We should be clear that the #GOP isn't calling for a "#divorce"; they're calling for a #CivilWar that will give them the excuse to suspend the #Constitution, overthrow the American government with their #RepublicanTerrorist brownshirts, declare martial law, and install a #Republican #FourthReich #fascist dictatorship.
I'm having some interesting and unusually productive conversations with my ex, today. Very pleased.
I am reminded that although there are many situations where asking permission would be wrong and unnecessary, telling people what is going on is a sign of respect and an act of kindness.
Even if it's bad or uncomfortable news.
Especially then, actually. People hate surprises.
I love her to bits but I realized after my parents #divorce some years ago (I'm from a rare breed of people who got to see their parents got through a hateful divorce at adulthood) that, even she wanted to do good, she actually got me some of my worst traits. She resorted to #shame to correct me when I was a teen.
I remember when I got too much 'feminine manners' when I was around 15 - she imitated me, parroted me - it shamed me so much that it indeed corrected me, I lost the 'feminine' presenting but also got me big issues about trust. To this day I have a broken psyche. I have a diagnosis of #borderline personality disorder and I'm always jumpy about what I tell people about my truth.
On the other hand, she can give incredible advice. She was always there for me and always accepted me and my boyfriends. She tried, in her broken way, to make me as she thought would be a easier way to navigate the world. She's still trying, sometimes. But I'm not having none of her shit anymore. I'm my own person.
Woah. The paperwork for my Legal Separation was couriered by a bike messenger to the courthouse an hour ago.
It'll be a bit until the judge's signature makes it a Final Judgment (since I'm pretty sure our paperwork will pass through the clerk just fine), but this is just as momentous as when I left Florence, Italy at the end of September 2021 and decided I was no longer a husband.
It's been a long time and a lot has happened, mayhaps I'll write more as it does...
Recent statement by the Secretary of Justice serves as a reminder that once upon a time we had divorce in our law books and how it ended up repealed. Divorce lost in the debate: https://www.quezon.ph/2017/08/14/the-explainer-divorce-lost-in-the-debate/ #divorce
I paid off the last of my #creditcarddebt last night.
Several years ago I went through a #divorce and the card became a very important way to make ends meet as a newly and unexpectedly single dad. I also struggled with #loneliness and #depression and spent money I didn't have on things I didn't need.
It's impossible to overstate the sense of relief I feel right now.