Masthash

#experiences

Increase Your #Influence With the #Science of #Immersion

https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9mZWVkcy5zaW1wbGVjYXN0LmNvbS9henkzM0c4Xw/episode/ZGMyMzU5YzktMjExNi00NjRjLTk5ZmMtN2JmOTg2YmQxNjdk?sa=X&ved=0CK0CEM-BB2oXChMIuIre9dn1ggMVAAAAAB0AAAAAEAE

Why are so many #social, #business, and #classroom #interactions so dang dull? This state of affairs isn't only a bummer for those on the receiving end of these underwhelming #experiences, but those offering them, too. It means that people are failing to #connect with others, #teachers are failing to impart #knowledge, and #salespeople are failing to make #sales.

Algarve Tourism
2 days ago

5 Secrets to Discover in Cidade Velha de Faro: Your Hidden Gem in Algarve

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#activities #algarve #architecture #cidadevelha #culture #experiences #faro #hiddengems #history #localtips
#portugal, #algarveportugal #algarvetourism #visitalgarve #cityguide #to...

The Optimist Engineer
6 days ago

🔴New issue of The Optimist Engineer newsletter is out!

Pair programming is a technique that might help you to reduce the bottleneck that a Pull Request represents for your team at the time of reviewing the code.

https://optimistengineer.substack.com/p/four-weeks-working-in-pair-programming

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#optimistengineer #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #software #softwaredevelopment #developer #pairprogramming #platformengineering #coding #codereview #programming #PR

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
6 days ago

Sharing experiences, learnings, and inspiration from the tech world, with a bit of optimism. Interesting for Tech Leads, Engineering Managers, and software makers from Startups to medium-sized companies. Hope my journey could help yours.

Subscribe now to The Optimist Engineer newsletter @optimistengineer 👇

https://optimistengineer.substack.com

#optimistengineer #startup #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #growth #techlead #engineeringmanager #makers #software #learnings #technology

Eileen Quigley
2 weeks ago

This week I thought of a saying I saw while visiting Peru in 2018: “The best things in Life are not things.” Thankful for the people and experiences that create memories. #thankful #thanksgiving #peru #experiences #newmemories .

A sign that says “the best things in life are not things.”
Marcos Lobo 💙💛
2 weeks ago

Onboarding new Software Engineers is always challenging and it's important to have a process in place. What about Junior profiles?👇

https://optimistengineer.substack.com/p/onboarding-junior-profiles-in-hyper

#optimistengineer #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #software #softwaredevelopment #developer #devrel #platformengineering

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
3 weeks ago

🔴New issue of The Optimist Engineer newsletter is out!

Having the right observability is crucial, and you notice this the most when you are in a production issue or intervention.

In today's issue, I set my vision about how concrete observability will help you to find out the root cause for a problem, from hours to a few minutes

https://mastodon.social/@optimistengineer/111415939001496544

#optimistengineer #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #leadership #techlead #engineermanager #TL #VP #UnoPlatform

The Optimist Engineer
3 weeks ago

🔴New issue of The Optimist Engineer newsletter is out!

I've recently participated in an AWS region migration of services and issues happened. Having concrete observability will move your Time To Detect from hours to a few seconds

https://open.substack.com/pub/optimistengineer/p/the-importance-of-concrete-observability?r=nw9bj&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

#optimistengineer #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #software #softwaredevelopment #developer #techlead

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
3 weeks ago

Sharing experiences, learnings, and inspiration from the tech world, with a bit of optimism. Interesting for Tech Leads, Engineering Managers, and software makers from Startups to medium-sized companies. Hope my journey could help yours.

Subscribe now to The Optimist Engineer newsletter @optimistengineer 👇

https://optimistengineer.substack.com

#optimistengineer #startup #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #growth #techlead #engineeringmanager #makers #software #learnings #technology

lobster
1 month ago

Dear listeners of AI transcripted podcasts,

#Journaling is a helpful practice done before or after meditation. Writing down thoughts can provide #therapeutic #benefits. Write in a physical journal instead of using online platforms. Journaling can help you #reflect on past #experiences and gain #insights. It can also #inspire personal growth and potentially lead to publishing your ideas. Sitting for just eight minutes can have positive effects, especially for beginners.
https://audio.com/lobster/audio/journaling

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
1 month ago

Sharing experiences, learnings, and inspiration from the tech world, with a bit of optimism. Interesting for Tech Leads, Engineering Managers, and software makers from Startups to medium-sized companies. Hope my journey could help yours.

Subscribe now to The Optimist Engineer newsletter @optimistengineer 👇

https://optimistengineer.substack.com

#optimistengineer #startup #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #growth #techlead #engineeringmanager #makers #software #learnings #technology

The Optimist Engineer
1 month ago

🔴New issue of The Optimist Engineer newsletter is out!

Tech companies evolve all the time due to new market needs and so their Software Engineering teams👇

https://open.substack.com/pub/optimistengineer/p/splitting-a-developers-team?r=nw9bj&utm_campaign=post&utm_medium=web

#optimistengineer #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #software #softwaredevelopment #developer #techlead #spookystuff

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
1 month ago

Sharing experiences, learnings, and inspiration from the tech world, with a bit of optimism. Interesting for Tech Leads, Engineering Managers, and software makers from Startups to medium-sized companies. Hope my journey could help yours.

Subscribe now to The Optimist Engineer newsletter @optimistengineer 👇

https://optimistengineer.substack.com

#optimistengineer #startup #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #growth #techlead #engineeringmanager #makers #software #learnings #technology

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
1 month ago

This feature from Substack is pretty nice. This is my map of subscribers for The Optimist Engineer newsletter

#stats #newsletter #optimistengineer #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #software #softwaredevelopment #developer #devrel #platformengineering

#Rem's #MichaelStipe on the #rock #star who "#raisedthebar".

Rather than go down the traditional route of lyrics, Stipe preferred the #listener to add their own #experiences to the #songs, challenging his #audience to make their own #rules about the #music.

#Women #Transgender #LGBTQ #LGBTQIA #Entertainment #Music #Representation #Culture

https://faroutmagazine.co.uk/michael-stipe-on-the-rock-star-who-raised-the-bar/

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
2 months ago

Sharing experiences, learnings, and inspiration from the tech world, with a bit of optimism. Interesting for Tech Leads, Engineering Managers, and software makers from Startups to medium-sized companies. Hope my journey could help yours.

Subscribe now to The Optimist Engineer newsletter @optimistengineer 👇

https://optimistengineer.substack.com

#optimistengineer #startup #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #growth #techlead #engineeringmanager #makers #software #learnings #technology

The Optimist Engineer
2 months ago

🔴New issue of The Optimist Engineer newsletter is out!

Having what you think is a software development "Dream Team" is really difficult. Actually, is it even possible?👇

https://optimistengineer.substack.com/p/the-impossibility-of-a-dream-team

#optimistengineer #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #software #softwaredevelopment #developer #techlead

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
2 months ago

Sharing experiences, learnings, and inspiration from the tech world, with a bit of optimism. Interesting for Tech Leads, Engineering Managers, and software makers from Startups to medium-sized companies. Hope my journey could help yours.

Subscribe now to The Optimist Engineer newsletter @optimistengineer 👇

https://optimistengineer.substack.com

#optimistengineer #startup #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #growth #techlead #engineeringmanager #makers #software #learnings #technology

"In short, AI can move us from pixels to patterns, lifting us beyond... digital #interfaces... toward #experiences that are much smoother and more intuitive—and, arguably, more human."
🤖 https://d3e.co/wf

Yes, @nlevin! Let's use #AI to amplify our humanity 🙏🏼
#UX #design

Trevor Fox
2 months ago

Streaming has been really good for me feeling better about my voice. I've actually had a lot of stuff that being a furry or streaming has helped me with

For example. I used to want to be really tall when I was a kid. That wasn't going to happen, but I was never happy with my height. Being a mouse furry and making my 'sona a foot shorter than me? It helped me come to terms with that better

For my voice, I never liked how it wasn't deeper and how sometimes my words get slurred together. I also thought I sounded weird. Combine that with always getting called ma'am when I get takeout

But streaming has been good for me. People tell me that not only do they like my voice but that it fits my 'sona extremely well. Streaming so much and listening back has gotten me used to the sound of my own voice, something I never thought would happen. Plus, the ma'am thing doesn't bother me at all anymore. I like it and find it fun.

There are also many other things that being involved in the furry community has helped me greatly with such as, dealing with depression, understanding myself and my preferences more, improving my art, sharing my humor, involving myself with other artists, freelancing, etc.

It's been a rollercoaster of a ride but one that I'm happy that I've been a part of. Being a furry, enjoying it, accepting it, and growing and learning really does feel like coming home

#thoughts #trevor_fox #introspection #furry #furrylife #artist #freelance #furryartist #experiences

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
2 months ago

🔴New issue of The Optimist Engineer newsletter is out!

Have you ever considered the implications that every single action, from you as a person, has? And if we extrapolate this question when you are in a leadership role?

In this issue, I write about the idea of how you, as a leader, could influence your team, whether for good or for not so good.

#optimistengineer #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #leadership #techlead #engineermanager #TL #VP

https://mastodon.social/@optimistengineer/111183585414418699

Inautilo
2 months ago

#Development #Experiences
I’m a spotless giraffe · AI tends to sand away the unusual: better hope you have spots https://ilo.im/15995a

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#Development #Design #Diversity #Inclusion #Accessibility #AI #GenerativeAI #Chatbots

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
3 months ago

Sharing experiences, learnings, and inspiration from the tech world, with a bit of optimism. Interesting for Tech Leads, Engineering Managers, and software makers from Startups to medium-sized companies. Hope my journey could help yours.

Subscribe now to The Optimist Engineer newsletter @optimistengineer 👇

https://optimistengineer.substack.com

#optimistengineer #startup #europe #softwareengineering #engineering #experiences #growth #techlead #engineeringmanager #makers #software #learnings #technology

Creative Coding Utrecht
3 months ago

🎮 You guessed it: we have some more Permacomputing lined up for you! During this meetup, anyone can take the stage and present their own work (in progress)!

🎮 FYI: Even if you have never written a line of code before, this meetup is for you! @goudreinette will help you consider what a Permacomputing approach to your art, academic practice or everyday life could look like.

🎮 Want to indulge in some '80s and '90s nostalgia? Freddy Offenga aka F#READY will introduce you to the Demoscene, an international computer art subculture focused on producing demos. Time to dust off your Atari 2600!

📅 21 September, 20:00 - 22:00
🕹 CCU Studio, Vlampijpstraat 84, Utrecht
🎫 Regular 7,50 / Student 5,00
💫 More info and tickets: https://ccu.stager.co/web/tickets/111332886

ℹ️ ICYMI: Permacomputing is “a philosophy applying ecological and long term thinking to computers” - a topic increasingly relevant in these contemporary times of unbalanced sustainability models and energy-intensive computing.

#nintendo #nintendods #atari #demoscene #retrogaming #90s #80s #utrecht #artists #artistinresidence #livecoder #livecoding #digitalcreativity #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #electronicmusic #liveperformance #collaboration #digitaleducation #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture

Creative Coding Utrecht
3 months ago

🎮 Your “old” console can find a new life! In this Permacomputing workshop by Rein van der Woerd, you’ll learn to write your own programs for the Nintendo DS, incorporating its (touch)screens, graphics, speakers, microphone, multiplayer-abilities and all sorts of other weird extensions.

🎮 Ready to replace that old Brain Training cartridge with your own brand new DJing programme? Or custom Nintendo DS interactive art? Or whatever your imagination comes up with? Come join us!

📅 23 September, 13:00 - 17:00
🕹 CCU Studio, Vlampijpstraat 84, Utrecht
🎫 Regular 40,00 / Student 20,00
💫 Find more info here: https://ccu.stager.co/web/tickets/111326750

ℹ️ ICYMI: Permacomputing is “a philosophy applying ecological and long term thinking to computers” - a topic increasingly relevant in these contemporary times of unbalanced sustainability models and energy-intensive computing.

✨ Art by Rein van der Woerd

#nintendo #nintendods #utrecht #utrechtcreatives #artists #artistinresidence #livecoder #livecoding #digitalcreativity #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #electronicmusic #liveperformance #collaboration #digitaleducation #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture

scienceamusante.net
3 months ago

Ce site a été pour moi une fabuleuse aventure pour apprendre à vulgariser les #sciences, en particulier la #chimie et la #physique. Il contient de nombreuses ressources utiles à tous les curieux de chimie, physique, dont des #expériences amusantes à réaliser. Certaines demandent du matériel particulier et s'adressent plus à des enseignants, d'autres sont faciles à réaliser par des enfants et leurs parents.
Étant jeune, je passais des heures au Palais de la Découverte à Paris... ⬇️

Creative Coding Utrecht
3 months ago

Ever wondered what would happen if you hacked a Nintendo DS? Or opened up your gadgets to see what’s inside (with permission from the adults, for once)? Generate the craziest AI image you can think of?

Come to the open studio of Creative Coding Utrecht on the 10th September to find out! During the afternoon, you will get a taste of the activities we organise. Bring your curiosity and get ready to try something new! The programme is part of UITfeest weekend.

ℹ️ The events are open to all ages and is suitable for people with no prior experience with coding, hacking, prompting, or for those who are still wondering what the fuss over AI is all about.

✨ Stick around after the programme, we are celebrating the opening of our new office at 17:00. Join us for a toast!

🔗 https://creativecodingutrecht.nl/en/calendar/uitfeest-ccu

📍 CCU Studio, Vlampijpstraat 84, 3534 AR Utrecht

🗓️ UITfeest Programme: 10th September, 12:30-17:00; New Studio Celebration 17:00 - 20:00

🎫 Free

#openstudio #uitfeest #uitagenda #utrecht #utrechtcreatives #artists #artistinresidence #livecoder #livecoding #digitalcreativity #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #electronicmusic #liveperformance #collaboration #digitaleducation #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture #permacomputing

punko
3 months ago

The only safe way to experience the #Fediverse is to lurk.
#Experiences #Observations

Creative Coding Utrecht
3 months ago

Our volunteer pool is made up of fun and motivated people who help make our events happen…and we are looking for you to join them! Do you want to gain experience working behind the scenes of cultural events? Want to meet new people? Get in touch! You might get to work on a small meetup during the week, or a full festival programme. Tasks vary between welcoming visitors, assisting artists and crew and more, depending on the event.

To apply as a volunteer for CCU fill out this form: https://noteforms.com/forms/volunteers-sign-up-form-2023-1pjrk2

#volunteers #volunteerswanted #culturalevents #mediaart #livecoder #livecoding #creativecoder #touchdesigner #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #electronicmusic #liveperformance #collaboration #electronicmusic #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture #artists

Our love of nature is highly individual and how we plan our cities and urban green spaces should take this into account, say scientists

Heredity And Early Experiences Are The Reasons People Love Nature | @GoteborgsUni & @_SLU | published in @Trends_Ecol_Evo

by @GrrlScientist via @ForbesScience / @Forbes

#nature #biophilia #genetics #experiences #greenspaces #UrbanPlanning https://www.forbes.com/sites/grrlscientist/2023/08/20/heredity-and-early-experiences-are-the-reasons-people-love-nature/

Creative Coding Utrecht
4 months ago

Our open office hours are back! As usual, we will be there to help with the algorithmic predicaments or computational quandaries that are keeping your mind busy.

In other words, are you looking for advice related to your practice? Looking to connect with other media artists and creative coders? Curious about CCU and what we do? During our open office, anyone is welcome to take a seat at the table to ask questions, share their stories, and advise each other.

Don’t forget to register and submit your questions or topics of interest in the sign up form linked below.

📅 September 15th, 15:00 - 16:00
📍 CCU Studio, Vlampijpstraat 84 (in de Hof van Cartesius), Utrecht
🎫 Free - sign up required: https://noteforms.com/forms/sign-up-for-open-office-hours-bnbkk2/?notionforms=1&utm_source=notionforms

Picture: @computational_mama during the Makers Meet&Eat 2022. Copyright @marenvanderburght

#openoffice #artist #artistinresidence #livecoder #livecoding #creativecoder #touchdesigner #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #electronicmusic #liveperformance #collaboration #electronicmusic #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture #artists

Adrian Segar
4 months ago

Should you self-publish your book? Here are my experiences, thoughts, and suggestions for authors on how to decide whether to self-publish.

https://www.conferencesthatwork.com/index.php/marketing-2/2013/01/should-you-self-publish-your-book/

#writing #publishing #SelfPublishing #marketing #thoughts #tips #suggestions #experiences

self-publish your book: photograph of an author signing books for a line of readers
Adrian Segar
4 months ago

Should you self-publish your book? Here are my experiences, thoughts, and suggestions for authors on how to decide whether to self-publish.

https://www.conferencesthatwork.com/index.php/marketing-2/2013/01/should-you-self-publish-your-book

#writing #publishing #SelfPublishing #marketing #thoughts #tips #suggestions #experiences

self-publish your book: photograph of an author signing books for a line of readers
Creative Coding Utrecht
4 months ago

Autumn is coming! And so are our monthly community meetups. We start off with a collaboration with NL_CL on September 12th in our brand new office space.

During this meetup, we will get together to talk about live coding. Anyone is welcome to take the HDMI cable and present their work-in-progress, display the issues they’ve been running into, and show their solutions! We will end the night with an open-stage jam, where we will be experimenting with live coded music and visuals.

Everyone is welcome to join the conversation, no previous coding experience is necessary. Come and hang out!

Netherlands Coding Live aka "NL_CL" is a series of live coding sessions, discussions, workshops and more, organized by live coders based in The Netherlands.

📍 CCU Office, Hof van Cartesius, Vlampijpstraat 84, Utrecht

📅 12 september, 20:00 - 22:00

🎫 Free entrance, reserve a spot here: https://ccu.stager.nl/web/tickets/111324724

#livecoder #livecoding #creativecoder #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #interactive #electronicmusic #electroacousticmusic #liveperformance #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #graphicdesign #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture #artists #virtualworlds #technology #processing #p5js #meetup

Jan D
4 months ago

Looking for shared experiences on playing single-player games together.

#gaming #experiences

Inautilo
4 months ago

#Design #Experiences
Why I no longer believe in Content Design · Content Design as a profession is facing many challenges https://ilo.im/14ik5w

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#Profession #Career #ContentDesign #ProductDesign #UxDesign #UiDesign #WebDesign

Creative Coding Utrecht
4 months ago

Did you know there’s a Discord community for you to easily get in touch with us, link up with people you met at one of our events, and exchange tips, tricks and ideas about your digital art practices? You might even receive a preview of our upcoming community programme soon…make new connections, join via invite! https://discord.com/invite/VbPRHwCjSD

#discord #community #livecodingdiscord #livecoder #livecoding #creativecoder #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #interactive #electronicmusic #liveperformance #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #graphicdesign #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture #artists

Nona Rose
4 months ago

Midnight thoughts on #SocialMedia:

Given the name, social media is meant to #social. It’s meant to be an exchange of #ideas and #information. It’s meant to be where you find people with similar #interests or #experiences.

But, left unmoderated, social media tends towards a cesspool of bigotry. We have seen small cohorts of people with terrible ideas gain traction and spread their influence, with the platforms unable or unwilling to stem the tide of hatred.

I love following people on whatever #platform it is, and seeing their wonderful pieces. It saddens me that some people see social media as purely a way to get money into their pockets, where every post they put up in selling something and their is little actual #engagement with their audience.

So, if you’ve seen this, please buck the trend and engage in the social media platforms of your choice, #talk to people, create a social space within your own posts and encourage others to follow your lead.

Creative Coding Utrecht
5 months ago

Second reveal of the week: our website just got a full makeover! But don’t worry: although we do love us some Permacomputing, we left the WordArts at home for this one.

Behind the scenes, our very own Sietse van der Meer (instagram.com/illustrasies) has been building the new online space for all things Creative Coding. The website was designed by Lisa Apers (instagram.com/frosnapers), the creator of CCU’s visual identity.

Our website has some extra interactive features for you to discover and customise your navigation experience. CCU team members have contributed to different elements on the website to give it that stunning look. You will find our past and future events, news and info about who we are and what we do.

Stay tuned for upcoming events in September!

🔗 creativecodingutrecht.nl

#livecoder #livecoding #creativecoder #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #interactive #electronicmusic #community #liveperformance #webdesign #newwebsite #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #graphicdesign #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture #artists #virtualworlds #technology

Creative Coding Utrecht
5 months ago

Don’t miss out on this Saturday’s Touchdesigner Workshop @vogelfreiplayground !

During our last activity before the summer break, Darien Brito will teach you how to use shaders in TouchDesigner and create mesmerising digital artworks like these. Shaders are programs written specifically for the GPU, which can massively accelerate computations required in graphical and non-graphical applications.

Please note that this workshop requires intermediate knowledge of Touchdesigner. For tickets and more information, check out the link in bio!

📅 July 1st, 13:00 - 17:00

📍 Havenloods, Utrecht → VOGELFREI

🎫 €40 (regular) / €20 (student)

#touchdesigner #workshop #shaders #glsl #touchdesignershaders #livecoder #livecoding #creativecoder #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #interactive #electronicmusic #liveperformance #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #graphicdesign #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture #artists #virtualworlds #technology

# Parents take on struggle for transgender rights for their kids and others in conservative Poland

The article is about a group of
#parents in #Poland who are fighting for the #rights and #acceptance of their #transgender #children and other #LGBTQ+ people in a #conservative and #Catholic society. The parents offer #FreeHugs at #Warsaw's #Pride #celebration, #share their #stories online and in videos, and #challenge the #antiLGBTQ+ #rhetoric of the #ruling #party leader and some #church #officials. They also #support each other and provide a #SafeSpace for #trans #youth who face #rejection, #depression and #suicide risk. The article #highlights the #personal #experiences of some of the parents and their children, as well as the #political and #social context of Poland's LGBTQ+ #rights #movement.

https://www.pbs.org/newshour/world/parents-take-on-struggle-for-transgender-rights-for-their-kids-and-others-in-conservative-poland

Creative Coding Utrecht
6 months ago

🌑 Rein van der Woerd brought Artificial to the Nintendo DS! He was inspired by the colorful, pixelated output of the program that wouldn't look out of place on a poster nowadays, and by the old Mac brought to the workshop. The limitations of the graphics hardware are what gives the visual output its shine.

#generativeart #remkoscha #livecoder #livecoding #creativecoder #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #interactive #electronicmusic #electroacousticmusic #liveperformance #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #graphicdesign #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture #artists #virtualworlds #technology

Creative Coding Utrecht
6 months ago

Don’t miss out on the last edition of our open office before the summer holidays! We’ll offer some refreshing drinks and perspectives on the projects/portfolios/funding applications you are working on. Come with a question in mind, and we’ll be there to help. Any skill and level of expertise are welcome.

Meet other artists and makers during the open office hours this Friday at De Havenloods. Make sure you sign up for the upcoming session and include your question in there, so that we know how to help you. We will resume our regular event schedule in September.

📅 16 June, 15:00 - 16:00

📍 CCU office - Nijverheidsweg 6-10, Utrecht

🔗 Sign up here - https://notionforms.io/forms/sign-up-for-open-office-hours-bnbkk2/

#livecoder #livecoding #creativecoder #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #interactive #electronicmusic #electroacousticmusic #liveperformance #musicperfomance #techno #house #electronicmusic #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #graphicdesign #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture #artists #virtualworlds #technology

OPEN OFFICE, BRING YOUR OWN PROJECT 
THIS FRIDAY - 16 JUNE 15:00-16:00
Creative Coding Utrecht
6 months ago

We are looking forward to te upcoming and final open office until the summerbreak: June 16th. Anyone is welcome to take a seat at the table to ask their questions, share their stories, and advice each other.

So, do you need advice? Or feedback? Are you working on your portfolio? Do you need help applying for funding? We will be present to help you with concrete issues. Come by the open office hours at De Havenloods to meet the community and find out more about their projects. Please make sure to have a clear question in mind so we know how to help you.

Don’t forget to sign up and share your questions: https://notionforms.io/forms/sign-up-for-open-office-hours-bnbkk2/ !

📅 June 16th, 15:00 - 16:00
📍 CCU office - Nijverheidsweg 6-10, Utrecht
📸 By Maren van der Burght during the Makers Meet & Eat 2022

#livecoder #livecoding #creativecoder #creativecoding #mediaart #newmedia #experiences #interactiveart #interactive #electronicmusic #electroacousticmusic #liveperformance #musicperfomance #techno #house #electronicmusic #graphics #experiences #immersiveart #graphicdesign #machinelearning #designer #3d #digitalculture #artists #virtualworlds #technology

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
6 months ago

This is about sharing #experiences, #learnings & #growth from the tech industry. People from #SoftwareEngineering, #TechLead, and #EngineeringManagement roles, from #Startups & medium-sized companies, could find this initiative interesting for their development and growth.

Marcos Lobo 💙💛
6 months ago

👋 Dear fellows!

I'm thrilled to announce my new project: The Optimist Engineer Newsletter

The first issue is out today!

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#newsletter #Engineering #SoftwareEngineering #learnings #experiences #Growth #growthmindset #startups #WednesdayMotivation #optimistengineer #Announcement #techlead #like #engineer #project #share #Subscribe

Vitalia Ann Conners (She/They)
6 months ago

I returned from #StudyAbroad in #Ecuador and #Galápagos today.

I have a ton to share. It was truly the trip of a lifetime, and I'm still processing everything. I'll always remember this trip. I'll likely be telling my grandchildren about it someday. But for this post, I'll talk a little about the #PoliticalEcology of the place.

#Quito is in a difficult location for a city: the second-highest national capital in the world after Kathmandu, Nepal, and surrounded on both sides by volcanoes in the Avenida de los Volcanes. Compounded with extreme poverty and political instability, quiteños are constantly at risk. But I still saw almost no homelessness, and I even saw people dancing, playing, and making music and art in the streets. Usually together, almost always for others. Don't ever tell me that people are inherently selfish again. And, unlike American cities which flatten and mow down the existing geological and ecological space for new development, Quito was the most vegetated city I've ever seen (even deep in the core of the city), and is built around and amongst natural features of the Andean cloud forest landscape.

The Galápagos is a remote volcanic archipelago, a special region of Ecuador but 1000 km away from the nearest land, with almost no fresh water, and had no permanent human population until a few centuries ago. In order to preserve the unique ecosystems of the Galápagos, highly restrictive measures must be taken. Not many people get to go, so I made a conscious effort to keep in mind the people who don't have the same incredible #privilege that I had. Fishing and agriculture are highly regulated, hunting is forbidden, you can't move there unless you marry someone who lives there, cats and dogs must be sterilized (and if there's one thing that stuck out to me right away, it's how much Ecuadorians love their pets). But by and large, galapagueños take those measures. The small cities of the Galápagos rely on non-destructive relationships with the local ecology in order to continue their existence, and do so proudly while providing very safe, relatively comfortable (though far from easy or wealthy) lives for the people. Because the wild animals of the Galápagos is not used to humans being dangerous, they tend to let you approach very closely (although 6 feet is the minimum legal distance for most animals). I don't ever want to hear that humans are inherently destructive to nature again. Nor do I ever want to hear that the much smaller changes we must make to our own economy and society to have reciprocity with the #UpstateNY ecosystem are too hard.

If I'd been born in Quito or the Galápagos, my life would have been very different. But it would have still been a valuable life, rich with experiences. There are countless possible lives I might have had, although I'm grateful for this one. Thousands of real people are currently living such lives. They seemed to me like mostly regular--but authentic and interesting--people with very different #perspectives and #experiences from my own. I wish them all the best.

Now, I'd like to share a one of my favorite photos from the Galápagos. It's a land iguana from the small, uninhabited island of Seymour Norte, off the northern coast of Santa Cruz. For an unknown reason, these iguanas would sell their souls for a yellow flower, or really anything yellow. Sometimes they'll follow you around if you wear a yellow shirt (although I tried it and they seemed too tired). I suspect it has something to do with the fact that the land iguanas themselves are bright yellow.

A land iguana from Seymour Norte, Galápagos. It's bright yellow, covered in scales, and staring at the camera. It's basking in the partial sunlight under a Palo Santo tree, surrounded by leafy undergrowth, on rusty red volcanic sand.
Diluvium
7 months ago

#50mm und ich. Der ewige Kampf zwischen Motiv und Schärfe. „Üben, üben, üben“, sagt @norberteder 🙂

Ich habe mittlerweile so viele Fotos gemacht, dass ich auch ohne Kamera einen Bokeh-Blick entwickelt habe und ihn nicht mehr loswerde 🤪 nicht immer klappt es. Da ist noch Luft nach oben.

#Erfahrungen #Fotografie #Photography #nature #experiences #closeup #practice

Close-up of a black holunder. Spherical red flowers. Sambucus nigra

Nahaufnahme eines Schwarzen Holunders. Kugelförmige rote Blüten. Sambucus nigra
Linux ☑️
7 months ago

::: LINUX IN THE WILD - "Weird Linux benefits" :ablobcatrave:

The OP stated:

"What I notice with Linux. I get somehow better audio like its more clear and better sound. I don't know how but I'm 100% sure I get better sound.

Some native Windows games I swear work even better on Linux and it's more stable for me.

There is also one weird thing that I can't explain but my eyes hurt less about 70%.

For some reason on Windows my eyes are burning even if I use the same apps and everything but still the issue is there."

- - - - - - -

So, what do YOU think? Had similar experiences after moving on from Windows to Linux? :thinkhappy:

=> https://teddit.net/r/linux/comments/13jnhhr/weird_linux_benefits_anyone_with_a_similar

#Linux #things #benefits #Reddit #Teddit #deleteWindows #deleteMicrosoft #objective #experiences #conversation

Seeking guidance from #gender #therapists and #LGBTQ+ organizations can provide valuable #support and #resources throughout this journey, including assistance in navigating challenges and accessing appropriate care.

Additionally, there are several #books available that can help parents deepen their understanding of #transgender, #nonbinary, and #genderdiverse #experiences and provide practical #guidance.

(12/20) #Transgender

Rasta
8 months ago

#Introduction #Thread (*continued*)

I grew up in a #Military Family, attended more schools than years, in various provinces in Canada, overseas in Northern (Westphalia) & Southern (Schwartzwald) areas of Germany.

As a teenager, I'd bike or walk to France, take school ski trips to Austria, & bus tours everywhere else.

I used to fix Black Forest Cuckoo Clocks & made a little spending money. We'd babysit too, there were no other *odd jobs*

#Soest #Baden #Rastatt
#Childhood #Experiences

The real sea turtles like the ones I've released on the beach / The memory I have every day on my work desk about them 🥹🐢🌊

#seaturtles #turtles #Iloveturtles #seacreatures #life #experiences

Nando161
10 months ago

This goes out to my #stalker who #tried to and #continually #fails at #outing my #sexuality, when I was 18 you tried and even in my 30's you are still #failing:

If I am #confronted with #your #mouth I will be #subject to knocking you the fuck out, my sexuality and #experiences are none of your concerns, #focus on your own #life or is that too hard? Is your life so #miserable & #mundane you have to #cause #problems for other #people? I am #comfortable with #who I am, I like #women and you should accept that #fact, move the fuck on. You did a good enough #job #destroying your own life over trying to destroy others.

No #wonder #you have no #friends.

Aral Balkan
11 months ago

This is all there is.

http://www.breakingthin.gs/this-is-all-there-is.html

Just stumbled on this short piece I wrote ten years ago, almost to the day.

#design #experiences #life

Kris
11 months ago

#Medical question.

As my account is still very small, I would really appreciate any boost, to get my question under attention in the right Mastodon circles. 🙏

Who can tell me more about #treathment of #depression with #ADD and #ADHD #medication

Not looking for advice! Just looking for #experiences from #patients, #protocols, #studies etc.

#mentalhealth #neurodiverse #doctor #psychiatry #psychology #psychologie #psycholoog #dokter #psychiatrie #psychiater #methylphenidate #offlabel

Merch Booth
1 year ago

Hi, we are fans of #music, #experiences, and #GoodFood. If you are too, follow us for music suggestions, our #podcast where we talk about #concerts we go to (and the food we ate of course).

We talk about everything from the history of the band we saw to how tall people ruin concerts 😂

If you like what we do, please #boost us so we can find more like-minded friends out there #introduction

Keith J Chouinard :verified:
1 year ago

Much of my #life I have been stomped on and belittled by those that lack the #sensoryawareness of the #experiences I have had in this life. If I #dare #speak about what I experience they #assume I am #crazy when in truth they fail to #see beyond their own #projections of #confusion and or #sensory #ignorance - Many allow this #abuse to #silence them and then #society at large loses greatly in its #abilities of greater #consciousness and the person being abused often suffers in silence

Algorithmic Futures Policy Lab
1 year ago

Hello from #Paris! It is only two days until #AFPLhmc22 begins and we are so excited to see you all! We have a great lineup of #speakers and #experiences -- #safety #responsibility #sustainability when it comes to #algorithms designed to interact with #humans #robots and #art all feature. Details here: https://algorithmicfutures.org/hmc22
Including virtual registration. #AFPLhmc22 is made possible with the support of the Erasmus+ Programme of the European Union.

A picture of a woman looking at a robot arm holding a flower, overlaid with the Algorithmic Futures Policy Lab logo. The text next to the image says “Human-Machine Collaboration in a changing world (HMC22) 1-2 December 2022 Paris/online” followed by the tagline “How do we create and regulate systems involving human-machine collaboration in a rapidly changing world? #AFPLhmc22”. At the bottom we have our partner logos: DIMACS at Rutgers University, CNRS LAMSADE, Australian National University, University of Canberra, the European Union, École nationale supérieure des arts décoratifs at PSL University in Paris.
pretendcato
1 year ago

Since Tuesday, I’ve started trying to do a new thing every day and I aim to keep it up for the next year.

I’ve been collecting ideas and they’re on a Trello board (but of course 🙃) 
More ideas will be added as they arrive. 


Here is the board. I’m open to suggestions - especially quite random ones ☺️
https://trello.com/b/NbsK9LNp/365-new-experiences

So far I’ve run 2 new sections of the SW Coast Path, got eyelash extensions, and made ice cream for the first time. Today is a writing challenge
#NewThings #Experiences

Ninon Dubourg
1 year ago

Hi Mastodon!

Here is my #Introduction!

I am a #postdoctoral fellow from the FNRS in #Belgium, at ULiège (UR "Transitions"), on #religious #experiences of #disabled people!

So, an "expert" on #MiddleAges #Disability, #OldAge, and #Gender mostly!

My first book will be out on January 23! Its title: "Disabled clerics in the Late Middle Ages, Un/suitable for divine services?"

I am both proud and frightened, but for now, I have to finish the #Index, so, see you soon here!

#histodons #dishist

Cover of the book : Ninon Dubourg, Disabled Clerics in the Late Middle Ages, Un/Suitable for Divine Service?, Amsterdam, Amsterdam University Press, 2023 - a light rose with an image of an "ill in bed bishop writing a letter", taken from the Bibliothèque Nationale de France (NAL 2508, fol. 144v, not online)
Kye Fox
1 year ago

As much as I would love to put photos in here, I didn’t have the awareness I do now that furry is a majority-queer community, so I wasn’t very careful about obscuring faces in the photos I took.

Sonic the Hedgehog was my first crush at a young age, so I was destined to become part of this weird, wonderful little community we call furry. I’ve done what many furries aspire to: go to a convention. Furry Weekend Atlanta is local, so the 2016 convention made a good first.

Day 1

I got to Furry Weekend Atlanta 2016’s hotel, the Marriott Marquis in downtown Atlanta, on the second day of the convention, so I walked into the lower floor of the hotel completely bewildered. Without the first day lines to guide me, I didn’t know where to go.

To my left was a giant room with people milling about. I tried to go in, but the woman at the door said I needed to get my badge first.

“Where do I do that?”

“Upstairs.” She pointed at the escalator in the middle of the lobby where I entered. I was so overwhelmed — by the drive in, seeing the tips of Atlanta’s buildings covered in clouds, the many lanes of traffic, the sheer mass of the brutalist architecture of the hotel — that I missed the escalator.

“Thanks.” I headed to the escalator, but the person I was with noticed an African wild dog fursuiter heading back toward the room we were turned away from and asked to take a picture. We did. This was my first time seeing a fursuit in person. They seem so big in pictures. In reality, they don’t add much to the suiter’s height.

Up the escalator, on to the con floor, where we finally got a look at the legendary hotel’s innards. The floor above us, which holds the hotel’s food court and leads to the mall food court across the sky bridge, had curious people from another convention taking pictures. Many of them had tails to go with their fancy business suits by the end of the convention. You can’t resist the fluff. I bumped into them on Twitter from time to time excitedly sharing the story of that time they saw a furry convention happening in the same hotel for a few years after.

We ended day one at a rave. I had a pounding headache, so I didn’t expect to last long.

Somehow, the bass pounding through the room made my headache go away. I did not dance. Behind me on the sidelines, I saw someone familiar. Someone I’d had a falling out with on Twitter. I avoided them a few more times, then made amends after the convention. It didn’t last, but we parted on good terms. Sometimes two personalities just don’t mesh, at least not at first. Paths diverge and converge. We met up again years later after they remade themselves with a new fursona.

Day 2

Fennec foxes, the real ones, are exactly as tiny and cute as they look in pictures. Wendy the fennec was there with the Conservator Center, the charity selected for Furry Weekend Atlanta 2016. I asked why she had to be caged. The last time they took her out, the crowds were too much. I know that feel. Also, fennecs can run at 30 miles per hour, so they didn’t want to risk her getting loose in that big hotel. Wendy has since passed away. Foxes don’t live nearly long enough.

The big thing for me on day two was the sky lounge social. While in line around the central barrier of the tenth floor, from which you could see all the way down, I met a guy who really knew his film. We chatted about why some old movies and shows get a HD release while others don’t. For example, I didn’t know they recorded parts of Stargate SG-1 on 35mm, ensuring it would never have a proper HD release without ugly upscaling or fancy AI filling in.

Behind us, cheesy electronic dance music emanated from a wolf. Normally I’d hate it, but the beat kept the line moving when conversation died down. Later, once we got our food, we met the friend we made in line and chatted with his friends at a table while we ate and looked out the windows.

They wouldn’t let us have campfires in the hotel to go with year’s convention theme, so we had mocha smores in little cups instead.

Day 3

Day three convinced me it was wise to skip the convention’s actual day 1. I was so out of it I almost forgot to check the Dealers Den one last time. This was long before covid-19, but a lot of the symptoms match, so it might have been another coronavirus or an actual flu. Knowing what I know now, I would have donned a mask the moment I started feeling sick just in case.

I met Rukis. If you’re a furry, you know who Rukis is. She makes cute art, but I did not know she writes. I spent several minutes chatting with her at her table. We talked about art and books, the state of the fandom, conventions. Stuff like that. Except I didn’t realize I was talking to Rukis. I recognized the art, but didn’t make the connection. That’s how out of it I was when I handed her my card to pay for my print.

I’ve since read two of her novels. The first, Off The Beaten Path, involves the arctic fox on the print I bought. Puquanah is a blind arctic fox who travels with his coyote, Ransom, and goes on all kinds of adventures. This print depicts Puquanah soon after being kicked out of his tribe, before he became a healer.

What I’ve noticed is, in the furry community, even the stars are down to Earth. I also (knowingly) talked to Fox Amoore at his panel on music composition and met a few other minor figures in the community. I hugged a lot of fursuiters.

I ended the day at Max Lager’s with the biggest hamburger I’ve ever eaten. We actually planned to go to Hard Rock Cafe, but the estimated wait time was absurd. So we went a few blocks to Max Lager’s, passing someone taking their graduation photos, meeting a guy who apparently rides around on his bicycle telling groups to stop laughing (we were).

You should go to Max Lager’s if you’re ever in town.

I decided to make my next convention a non-furry con. FWA was too small, so when the former friend I was with ditched me for 99% of the convention, it was hard to find my way around. He had more experience with cons, so I felt safe going in, but I realized it was unwise to depend on someone I barely knew. I met all the people I knew who were in attendance on the first day, and you can only hit up the Dealers Den, Game Room, and Artist Alley so many times before you run out of activities.

DragonCon is an obvious choice, but it’s probably a 2024 or 2025 thing unless one of my projects takes way off. Money isn’t as tight as it was in 2016, but I know from that experience that I need to stay at the hotel, not commute, and I need enough money budgeted to really enjoy myself. But I Did A Con, and it marked a huge bucket list item off while also giving me a more realistic idea of the experience.

https://kyefox.com/2022/07/11/my-first-furry-convention/

#Conventions #Experiences #Furry

Kye Fox
1 year ago

You know the subreddits. Raised By Narcissists, Lost Generation, Childfree, and other subreddits in that theme. Forums where people go to share notes and commiserate.

They’re great for a little while. You learn the boundaries of your traumas, find strategies to get past them, and then…

That’s where the problem starts. By the time you’ve gotten something out of them, you’re used to visiting and joining in on the misery. But you can’t just stay there and keep getting something out of it.

It’s true of anything. Eventually, you have to move on from the beginner level. You can’t live in your misery. At some point, you have to live. Take it from someone who spent hours a day getting mad in /r/lostgeneration while ignoring all the things I could be doing to thrive despite all the barriers put in my generation’s way. Once you grow past it, you realize a lot of the people hated by that forum are in the same boat, and getting your daily Five Hours Hate just keeps you from realizing who your allies are.

Let me leave you with one lesson: If a relationship makes you feel worse every day, the relationship is toxic. That could be family, friends, a partner, a place online. Or offline. Time and energy you spend in those relationships is time and energy you can’t spend learning from it and moving on to better things.

https://kyefox.com/2022/07/05/raised-by-the-internet/

#Experiences

Kye Fox
1 year ago

I could get mad at him. But…it won’t help. It’ll just make me more stressed, and it won’t register with him that he needs to be better any more than the thousand other times.

This is, unfortunately, life. Sometimes it’s family. Sometimes it’s a stranger. A coworker. There is usually an individual responsible for the specific thing that happened.

You can sit and mope about how unfair the world is. You can live in other people’s damage. You can keep reenforcing and projecting forward the generational trauma that led to your current misery.

Or. Here’s a cool idea. Take charge of your own responsibility in that chain of events so old no one remembers where it started and reduce your exposure to other people’s damage as much as you can, then learn to let the rest roll off as much as you can bear. Grey rock it when you have to, break the script and take the bait less each time, and work on carving out spaces to be soft and fluffy.

You can’t live as a rock, but sometimes it’s the only way through the fire. A little bit at a time. One minute, one hour, one day at a time. One conversation you direct to, at worst, a stalemate at a time. One time you refuse to follow the script and let the neural pathways that hold generational trauma go fallow.

The little changes really do add up. “If you think I’m bad, you should see my parents” is the best most people ever manage, but only because settling for not as bad is part of the script.

Most people opt to keep going one way or the other. So, since you’re in it, you have to decide how you’re going to deal with it. Living in trauma stinks. It makes you feel bad. It makes the people around you feel bad. It leads you to make choices that drive you deeper into the situation. There’s nothing good about it.

We are weird chemical machines who perceive our reality mediated through a slab of meat in our skulls and a weird alien biome in our guts that science is just starting to figure out. Everything you do and everything you think carves new pathways and strengthens old ones. That “two wolves inside” story is bullshit cooked up by a dead fascist to sell the faulty good vs evil narrative to his fringe cult followers, but there is something to the idea that you are who you act. The more you’re pessimistic, the easier it becomes, and the harder it is to maintain a balanced perspective. You don’t have to be happy, but you can stop punching yourself.

As I work on this draft almost two years later, I don’t even remember what got me so mad I started this article instead. I used to lose days to anger over little things like whatever it was. Change is possible. Sometimes it’s slow. My own change started in earnest in the 2010s and it’s only paying dividends in the chaos of the 2020s.

Make a different choice every once in a while. It adds up

https://kyefox.com/2022/07/05/unlearn-helplessness/

#Experiences

Kye Fox
1 year ago

Sometimes it’s healthy to subject yourself to painful or traumatic things in a controlled way to reduce your sensitivity to it. I did not like Joe Rogan going into this project. Hearing him out for hours didn’t improve my impression. But I did hear him out.

Joe Rogan is at his best when he shuts up. He has no standards for his guests. One day he’ll have on Penn Jillette, a man who changed his podcast intro to be nonbinary-inclusive, and the next Joe will have on someone who’ll tell you that nonbinary stuff is “gender ideology” and whine about children on Twitter telling him to shut up. No standards.

But sometimes he has good guests on, and he doesn’t do any editing. I want to focus on one interview in particular: episode #1258 with Jack Dorsey, Vijaya Gadde, and Tim Pool. Jack Dorsey is Checkmark Zero, and largely irrelevant to this story. Vijaya Gadde is Twitter’s head legal team person and responsible for what they call trust and safety.

I don’t think I would have understood all the viewpoints involved here without the format. The episodes are long. This episode is three and a half hours. So long that everyone got out the usual BS, realized they kept repeating themselves, and chilled out enough to hash out their differences and similarities for a couple of hours before calmly conceding they wouldn’t fully agree with each other, but at least understood each other’s positions.

Tim Pool is one of those people I would normally dismiss as an asshole. Asshole, probably, but I heard him. He’s your typical free speech absolutist. He has his lines, and those lines are informed by his ideology. He thinks, and Joe generally agrees, that removing people and content from platforms prevents people from making informed decisions. He cites an example where a friend of his was going down the alt-right rabbithole by way of a right-wing personality. He wanted to reference a video on YouTube from that personality to show how bad they really are and where his ideas went, but the video was gone. He admitted he didn’t know why it was gone, but the point held: the video wasn’t available as evidence to steer that friend away. That was actually kind of persuasive. A point of agreement! We might disagree on the solution. More on that later.

I don’t think they would have gotten to the point of actually laying out their worldviews in a more filtered format. Unfortunately, that format also means people with some absolutely atrocious ideas get to speak without challenge, without the slightest “now wait a minute” from Rogan. That’s fine for a Vijaya Gadde or Penn Jillette, but not an Alex Jones. I got to better understand Tim Pool’s bad ideas, why Twitter moderates the way it does and the struggles they face, and I got to hear every single story Penn Jillette repeats on every podcast he goes on.

As for how to moderate tricky content, I think it’s better to demote the content and people and provide some informed commentary, then provide a path to the full force of their ideas with the benefit of that context. In the same way, I wouldn’t send someone to Joe Rogan’s podcast without pointing out some of the troubling people he has on. This is generally the path big platforms have taken. Twitter and Facebook added several classes of warning after the January 6th insurrection, and YouTube puts warnings on all kinds of things. However, they stop short of demoting things.

https://kyefox.com/2022/07/05/i-experienced-joe-rogan/

#Experiences #Podcasts

Kye Fox
1 year ago

Polyamory is when people decide to have some kind of relationship and are open to the idea of it not being exclusive. The shape of these relationships is highly situational and personal.

There’s basically two ways polyamory goes down:

  1. You learn a lot about yourself and unpack all the stuff you’ve buried over a lifetime, figure out what you want, and are forever changed for the better. Maybe this means you decide polyamory isn’t for you. This is how it went down for me.
  2. You double down on all your insecurities, ruin everything, and blame polyamory for it. Most of the negative stories you hear come from this. All polyamory does is amplify what’s already there. It’s like getting superpowers. An ass with laser vision was already an ass without it.

Here’s a short list of tips:

  1. Don’t go into it thinking it’ll solve your problems. A broken relationship will end up more broken if you try polyamory.
  2. Have clear expectations. Someone will get hurt by whatever you think is implicitly understood.
  3. Don’t mislead partners about possibilities, even by omission. If you’re adamant about giving your existing partner(s) veto power, make this clear up front with new partners.
  4. If you aren’t well-off, it’s probably not going to work. I learned this the hard way. I believe he wanted to make it work, but between a job, family, student loans, and previously undiscovered insecurities (for all involved), it was never going to work.
  5. When it doesn’t work, don’t be strung along. You probably won’t be friends after. It multiplies the trouble that comes with trying to be friends with someone you broke up with when it’s just the two of you. They’re going to want to talk about all the great experiences they’re having that you don’t get to be part of. And they’re going to feel bad or resentful when you finally set a boundary and say no, I don’t want to hear about it.
  6. When it doesn’t work, don’t string them along.
  7. Too many people in the polyamory community like to talk trash about people who don’t want to be friends with someone after a breakup. Accept no shame for your boundaries. Accept no shame for taking care of yourself.
  8. Accept no proxies. If a metamour (partner’s partner) has a problem with you, they need to speak directly to you. Or, at minimum, establish some boundaries on how you can lean on the person in the middle. They can act as a mediator; they do know both sides best, after all.

Speaking from experience, the last one paired with veto power is a relationship killer. I felt like an accessory to someone else’s relationship. It seemed like there was some new edict coming by way of the person I was trying to date every week from someone I’d exchanged maybe five awkward, anxious, uneasy words with. Someone who always acted hostile toward me.

Oh! That brings in a good final bulletpoint.

  • Don’t ignore the red flags. She looks you dead in the eye while smooching the person you’re both dating the first time you meet? Probably not going to work out.

Polyamory is an amplifying force. It takes anything that’s marginal and dials it up to 11, good and bad. But mostly the bad. All your insecurities. All your bad habits. Any mental health issues. All your money troubles. Everything you hoped wouldn’t come up again.

Anything you haven’t worked past will come up. Some stuff you thought you worked past will resurface. How you handle this will determine your experience with polyamory.

https://kyefox.com/2022/07/05/dont-join-a-poly-cule-until-you-have-a-poly-clue/

#Experiences #Polyamory